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writes:I met this guy about 2 weeks ago, and we hit it off right away. Since then, he's text me without fail everyday, which is good as usually guys trail off after a few days!The only thing which confuses me, is how long he takes to reply to each text! Usually an hour, or half an hour (sometimes down to the exact minute!). I can understand being busy but i'm pretty sure he's doing it on purpose to 'play it cool'. At first I thought he was playing so I also took a fairly long time to reply each time, but now i'm so fed up of waiting that I know if I take ages so will he! So I generally reply within about 10 mins unless im unavailable. Is this the right thing to do? I don't understand the games boys play ;) if it makes any difference, we're both first years but i'm 18 and he's 20.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys, I suppose its not a long time in retrospect, but I always see texting as instant, I don't like to keep people waiting around for an answer!
Obviously i'm not just waiting around for him to text back, but I usually have my phone on me.
Some days he just texts me with 'Hey babe' and thats it for the day,even if I reply back, which is sweet as I know he's thinking about me :)
Sorry I was probably getting annoyed over nothing, not everyone is as attached to their phone as me! I am now taking at least half an hour to reply haha
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reader, Moon_Light +, writes (26 November 2011):
You should probably wait for a while longer before replying so that you don't look desperate, especially if he is taking a long time too, he'll know how it feels then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2011): Most likely, he's reading an advice column and trying to play hard to get on you. Which might mean he likes you ;) Dont text back after 10 minutes! That is wayyyyyyyy to desperate. Text back after half an hour.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (25 November 2011):
 OP if you want an immediate conversation with him and don't want to wait for a text, why not just speak on the phone. Stop fussing around with texting!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (25 November 2011):
 I don't think an hour is long, he may not be a fan of texting, not everyone is. Does he work, go to school?
Personally, I think texting is overused. People shouldn't carry on a relationship over text.
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reader, bardia +, writes (25 November 2011):
 Honestly, I REALLY don't understand why texting has become such an issue in relationships today. I can understand guys my age or older not being interested in it. But the under 30 crowd has been doing this for years now & it shouldn't be such a stupid game. Really. If I like someone & they like me, why wouldn't we just text freely & reply as soon as we can? The whole 'chase' & 'game' thing is total middle-school level B.S. I wish people wouldn't jerk each other around like this. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, he's at uni. I'd understand if he took an hour to reply if I sent him a text the first time, or something... but when he texts me, and I reply THEN he takes an hour, then I reply again, then he takes another hour etc... its obvious he's got his phone on him.
Plus my guy friend said it was a game he's playing, I was just wondering why! And how I should play back haha :)
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reader, N91 +, writes (25 November 2011):
 I'd start worrying when the texts stop. He may be really bust, who knows? At least he's replying which shows a level of interest.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (25 November 2011):
Err an hour isn't a long time to get back to someone! I'd say 10 mins is very quick! What does he do with his day? Does he work?
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reader, mammaboo +, writes (25 November 2011):
 Then don,t try and play the game yourself. Does it matter really how long it takes and couldn,t you be doin something else rather than waiting!
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