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writes:I overreact to and get clingy with my girlfriend. I don't really know why, in most aspects of my life I'm rational and even keeled. But with her I'm a bit of a maniac. I ask her stupid questions and she gets annoyed by them, and then I feel like the world is going to end. Nothing has much of an emotional effect on me besides her, which I think intensifies how I react to her, but the degree to which I'm bothered by everything just doesn't make sense. I worry about everything all the time and it drives her crazy which makes her be a bitch to me, which just makes me freak out worse. We were good friends for a long time before we started dating, and always got along fantastically, but since we've been together officially I've been I just get weird with her, and it sucks. I care about her infinitely and don't want to lose her because I do immature things and over react. I think part of it is how she's much more sexually and relationship experienced, I've always been quiet and not very confident when it comes to girls. Basically I feel like I can't control my emotions when it comes to her. I know it's messing with our relationship, and more than anything I want things to be good with us because I know we're good for each other and when I'm not being strange we're both super happy and everything is good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Babyzbird, I've talked to her about it, and she seems to understand completely, so much so that she just gets annoyed when I talk about it because she already knows every single word I'm about to say. Her knowing all of this doesn't seem to have any affect on how much the things I do annoy her.
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reader, babyzbird  +, writes (6 November 2012):
 I think it would be a wonderful idea to sit her down and talk to her and explain to her what you just told us. That way she understands what is troubling you and the both of you can work together to fix it.
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reader, Beautifulboy +, writes (6 November 2012):
well buddy i have good news and i have bad news. by what you are saying and claiming to feel im willing to bet that you are falling in love for the first time and that feeling is absolutely amazing when its in the right hands.. bad news.. she has complete control of you due to her beginning to be your first love and your insecure i can tell. not to say too insecure but definately insecure.. i was my exes 1st love an she acted the same way and as she fell more in love with me, her insecurities an trust issues skyrocketed BUT she was a bigger girl beautiful but bigger and im very very attractive guy so that may have added to her situation of having lack of trust with but it will happen to you to the more u fall for her so my advice would be to be yourself treat her great and tell her shes beautiful 3 times a day just incase shes a little insecure herself and always reassure her that you will never cheat or heart her an that you are ALL ABOUT her. just dont accuse her of things and keep it to yourself. try what i said to do an i think your relationship with have observers envy it. trust me. peace
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