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writes:im gay i've known since just a bit after starting puberty. I probably would say it was in high school i knew i was gay, well im just a bit scared to come out because im the only one in my family which is gay and i see that as alot of pressure i just dont want people to look at me different, i don't want to embarrass my dad. I get asked if im gay sometimes and have had gay offers but i deny and turn them down because friends were there well i kinda think my mum and dad know they always have i think, im not really camp and i do act straight but i guess its the way i carryon sometimes thats probably why... i do wish i was straight most of the time just that i want kids and keep my own bloodline going, i just wish people wouldn't make such a big deal about gay people :/ i turned 19 october there and im still a virgin , i dnt look at girls and go "ew" im just turned on by guys but i dnt wanna do anything gay coz im scared and i dnt exactly have a gay person to talk to and help me out =\
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys for all your support x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionguesss wat i told my best friend tonight lol & she didnt make a big deal about it, yes im drunk but i still know i dnt regret it xcD xD?
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reader, der_zyniker  +, writes (10 January 2011):
Well one day you will have to tell them. I know that it's frightening. I'm gay and I'm not out to my family either and there is nothing that scares me more than the thought of them finding out. You don't have to worry about embarrassing your dad because there is nothing to be ashamed of. Although it will happen someday, you don't have to tell your family today or tomorrow or even this year. You wait until you are ready for them to know. I feel the same way as you when it comes to having kids. There is nothing that I want more in the world than to have my own children. There are now ways that people like me and you can do that. Gay people can now have children that is the biological child of both partners if they have the money. You can get a surrogate, once again if you have the money to do so, which if you get the correct insurance can cost as little as $15000. If you don't have the money, then there are plenty of children in adoption that need a home. I know that you want children that are biologically your own, but what does it really matter if they are your biologically children as long as you love them?
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reader, yorkshireboii +, writes (10 January 2011):
I too was scared, but you know what's worse? Living a lie.
Just tell them, because I can guarantee you that you will feel such a relief that it is off your chest. You won't be hiding nothing no more.
If you're scared about reactions, this is the time of your life that truly shows who actually cares for you and values you as a person, regardless of sexuality. I thought my friends would be disgusted, but ALL of them were supportive. Not to mention my parents, they were fantastic with it.
Being gay is not wrong, neither is experimenting to see which gender strikes you as more sexually attractive. We live in 2011 now, modern times, especially for the United Kingdom, where Homosexuality is something that is widely accepted now. Yeah, you get these nutters who are Homophobes, but generally speaking, this is a great country of acceptance. Let's not elaborate on acceptance there, because some things are a tad ridiculous, but in this instance, I say tell the world. Be proud man.
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reader, Sally_A  +, writes (9 January 2011):
hi, i'm a lez, and i came out to my parents about a year ago...
if u're 100% sure u're gay, than you don't have to worry about going out of the closet... it will happen when it is time for it to happen.. don't over push it!
but i'll tell you this... it is YOUR LIFE and no one can choose who you love or who u'll be with for the rest of ur life
afterall u're not a criminal, u're not doing anything wrong and the most important, u're not doing anything that is against the religion, God or the law! and don't let anyone convince you that you are ! ok ?
be who you are, be who you wanna be, don't live your life the way other people , including ur parents , want you to live it! cz u're the one that will regret living it by the rules when u're having that one last breath!!! trust me... you don't wanna look at ur life while u're dying and say... damn! i wanted to do alot of other stuff! wish i could have 1 more week, or day or even hour!!
accept who you are, others will be obliged to accept you
don't come out unless u're 100% sure of who you are and 100% sure that u're ready!
PS: be ready for everything, cz ur parents might accept the fact that u're gay , or may not! (but even if they don't... just give them time to recover from the shock!)
i know my parents accepted me, and i'm blessed to have such parents, but not all parents are like them
take care and wish you the best!!!! tc..
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reader, anonymous39  +, writes (9 January 2011):
Coming out is a big moment in your life, please only do this when you truly feel it is the right time.
You Mom probably already knows, you were apart of her for 9 months, she knows. Your father could know as well.
As far as having children, there are many options for Gay men, you can find a surrogate mother willing to use your sperm.
You are young and are still at a time in your life where everything is hard.
Take your time to share with your family and friends about your sexual orientation.
Good luck buddy!
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