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writes:there is this girl who has been my best friend for many years, and during the course of our friendhip I have confided in her many things I have never told to anyone; such as fears, weaknesses, and my fetishes. I love her very much but as my friend but she sometime ago told me she wanted more than that. When I told her I did not want that, she changed into this whole different person. I tried walking away to give us some space, and she reacted by using my weaknesses against me, and now she has me in this sexual web that i cannot get out of; believe me I have tried! her knowledge of me leaves me at a disadvantage in resisting her; she gives me the most softest, intimate, bj/hj's Ive ever had in my life; she knows how to seduce me with her words till I have no resistence left... I do not know what else to do! I already feel like Ive lost myself and if this goes on any longer, I see no escaspe! Need help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): restraining order? If it's getting to the point where you're having to move away to rid yourself of her company...
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reader, feetraider +, writes (10 January 2011):
feetraider is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your thoughtful replies! I am truly trying to break free but it is not as simple as just walking away. I moved to a different state, she followed; I move back, she followed. I have told her many times I dont want this, but she finds some way to get to me.
I realize some who read this will be like "just leave" or tell her to "stop"; but until you have been in a situation where someone can override every defense & leave you completely defenseless then you wont understand.
However, I do appreciate all the advice & I will try and find a way of escape.
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reader, shawncaff +, writes (10 January 2011):
 Somehow I feel this may be a troll!
How in the world would she get in a position to do this to you? If you just want to be friends, then don't unzip your fly. Unless she is a 300-pound Amazon who can wrestle you to the ground and have her way with you, there is no reason you should be in this position. Ye Gods, man, either stop the bollux or else call the bloody police and get an order of restraint against this behemoth!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): Sounds to me like you told her in the first place for a reason or she took it as such. Unless you are a submissive and she is as acting as a Domme, which this sounds like, then simply zip it up and walk away from it. If she asks what's up, tell her you can't be friends unless she stops and stick to what you say.
If you're being sincere about this, then a real friend would respect your wishes, not manipulate when it's against your will. You would also stop enabling her, fetishes or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): Yes, she is clearly manipulating you and playing mind games. This is often a sign of great immaturity and even possible sadism. ALL things point here to break off contact with this woman completely. You need to make a firm stand here absolutely as I feel your own perosnal well being is in great jeopardy and at possible risk of many things. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous39  +, writes (9 January 2011):
She is manipulating you with sex. As you mentioned she knows your weaknesses. If you continue the following will happen - she will continue to "think" that you want her because you continue to give into her sexually. At some point you will meet someone who you do like/love and you will have to "cut her off", which could lead to her going crazy with jealousy and can't understand why you didn't "want" her.
You own this because you allowed the sexual act to happen.
Most women associate sex with love (yes, we are a screwed up complex mystery).
My advise is to complete cut out the sexual acts and tell her honestly that you value your friendship more than anything and to continue will destroy that.
Good luck buddy!
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