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writes:i am realli confused!i have been dating the same man for four and a half years now. i love him to bits and do not like hurting him i feel that i am not in love with him anymore, because there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. for the past five months i have been seeing someone else behind his back. i feel that now i have been with this person we have both grown strong feelings for each other. i would love to be able to tell my current boyfriend that i am just not in love with him anymore. but i know this will destroy him, he loves me way to much. i really need to end this relationship but dont know where to start. i know i should just start from the beginning and tell him my feelings have changed but i really dont want to hurt him.every time we are with each other now we argue, i think its me being bad to try and make him hate me. Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 January 2010):
Just break with him. You've been cheating ion him for five months. Ge it over and done with. Tell him he'a a good guy, but that you're not the girl for him, and then cut all contact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): Man up and get it over with. It is going to be painful, no matter what you do.
By telling him the trugh in a simple, non-judgemental and kind way... simply tell him you think he is a great guy, you just don't love him in the way he wants you to.
By falling out of love, you have already fired the gun and are living on borrowed time. All that remains is how long the bullet takes to hit.
And the longer you wait, the harder it does, and the greater the damage it causes.
Flynn 24
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reader, AlaMich88  +, writes (31 January 2010):
First off if your gonna be so cold hearted and shallow to cheat on him ((I'm seing someone behind his back)) then u need to brake it off asap! That's messed up that u could do that, I understand that some people can't help their feelings and who they fall in love with but being with this man for over 4 years and now ur secretly seeing someone behind his back, your hurtin him more than you know and how could you live with yourself for doin that to someone who has put up with you for sooo long. Don't lead him on and plaster on a fake smile cuz u don't wanna hurt him, damn brake it off if ur gonna be seeing other people. He deserves better than you by far and your WRONG FOR HAVE DONE THAT TO HIM. Some people fall in and outta love but at least have the heart to end it instead of doin what ur doin. That's my advice, end it. Let him find someone else that won't live a lie.
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