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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): Break ups are some of the most painful things to go through. If you don't think there is any chance of reconcilliation then it helps to tell him to stop contacting you. Depending on how long you were together and how much he means to you stopping all communication is not going to make you get over him any faster, but it does help you accept the break up logically and take steps to move on with your life.
At some point you may feel you want to be friends with him, but you will know when you are ready.
However, if he is still contacting you are you sure he doesn't want to get back together? Or if he does you aren't interested in getting back together?
If he is contacting you and saying hurtful things or things to make you jealous then I wouldn't go back to him, he just wants to hurt you again.
I don't think there is any right or wrong thing to do, you are still going to grieve the loss either way, just realize that this is normal and don't fight your emotions, let them out, and then give yourself a time that you have to stop and get out and get active. That helps a lot too.
If you feel communicating with him is giving you false hope then stop it.
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reader, gemmaxx09  +, writes (23 May 2009):
 i feel the same as you, i dont kno how i am suppose to get over my ex, i love him to bits but i kno we cant be together. I cant get over him because he wont stop contacting me. I think if we stopped contact all together i could move on with my life, so yes it is best to lose all communication with him i think, it will be very hard but its for the best to move on
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