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writes:HeyI am a young mom with a baby aged 5 months.I have just started getting my life back on track when i met roxanne. We are now dating. Will this affect my child with the fact i am a lesbian?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): everything you do as a parent wil affect your baby. The question is whether it's positive or negative. Who you sleep with is probably the last thing on the list as a negative issue. Loving and caring for your child and being the very best parent possible is what you have to be.
My concern would be that children do not need 'people' introduced into their lives for them to get attatched to. What if this relationship or any other don't last long? You are a constant in your babies life. You cannot say the same for other people. I would say have your relation but, do not introduce your daughter to any one new until you feel it's something special.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (8 June 2009):
 NO, NO, NO, it will not affect your baby. What will affect your baby is having a loving parent, maybe two loving parents (if Roxanne would like to be now or in the future, considered a parent to your child), who are happy together. Your child will not care what your sexuality is, but if you are happy and most of all, if you are a good parent to her. There are plenty of heterosexual couples out there with miserable children, who constantly hear pain, arguing, etc. That is what affects kids.
I know lots of kids with gay or lesbian parents who have turned into wonderful, warm, loving human beings. And no, in case you are curious, this will not make your kid into a lesbian. It will let her know that she can be whoever she wants to be and that being GBLT is nothing to be ashamed of or fight against. She will find someone who makes her happy, man or woman. It's a natural lifestyle, it's a normal lifestyle and it is OKAY. She will grow up more open-minded, and what a great gift that is.
You do what you want so that you're happy and comfortable. All your little one will ever know or care about is whether or not she was loved, protected and brought up in a happy home. Who the hell cares what kind of home it is? If it is happy, it is healthy.
Good luck (and congratulations on the new baby!)!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): I don't think it matters BUT what you have to make sure you do is prioritise your baby before anyone else, no-matter what sort of relationship you are in. I'm surprised that you have time for a relationship at your age with a 5 month old child to care for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): I would suggest looking up more detailed information online, but no. I don't think that a baby being brought up with two moms or two dads, or anything of the sort has any sort of bad impact on the child.
Some people have a fear that children are too impressionable and thus should not be shown that 'sort of thing' however if that were the case then the LGBT children of heterosexual parents would...well, NOT be lgbt.
I hope that makes sense to you ^_^
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): Um... how?
Do you mean will your baby mind that you are a lesbian? Honestly if your baby is loved and cared for, it shouldn't even notice till about age two, by which point you would have moved on from this girl or if not, you can just explain carefully in a way that is appropriate for a young child. Tons of kids grow up with same sex parents. If the love etc is there, it's all good.
In my opinion, it doesn't matter who is around the child or in what capacity, so long as they are loved and cared for. How many kids come from broken, crappy homes where mom and dad were married etc etc?
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