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writes:I'm 17 atm and at a private school where increased interaction between students and teachers is acceptable.However, there's this teacher who's 30 years old that I'm having a few problems with. He's an English teacher and only arrived a year ago. Since then, it's been a bit odd between us. He's never taught me, but I know him from the English Dept. The way he acts whenever I'm around makes me think that he might find me a bit attractive but I don't know why he could possibly think that. I look like I've been chewed and spat out by a dog most days and don't wear any make up like the other girls because I simply can't be bothered. It's Easter break now but I popped in to get something signed when I saw him looking me up and down in a strange way.I had to walk home for an hour and a half today because my father refused to pick me up and he was really concerned about it, repeatedly offerring me money for a bus or taxi which I felt bad to take. It's hard to know what mood he's in because some days he's bright and cheerful and makes conversation with me from his own accord and some days when I talk to him, he's distant and I feel like I'm being inappropriate simply by asking where he's off to and when he's in that mood, he gives clipped answers, almost as if he's annoyed with me.I don't know how he feels about me. I really want to work this out and if he does feel attracted to me, I know how to deal with it. I just want to know if he is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): It's me, who wrote the question.
We talk about non-school matters constantly. That doesn't mean we talk about our personal lives, just things like music, books, general stuff. It's not that inappropriate in the atmosphere of our college. It's just a general conversation, like 'hi, how are you?' 'Fine, where are you off to?' and he normally replies 'so and so classroom to teach this year.' It's no big deal.
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reader, YourDestiny11  +, writes (24 March 2010):
 I think you might be just blowing it out of porportion. It sounds like hes just trying to be a nice guy and teacher. good luck.
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reader, called Steve +, writes (23 March 2010):
 Increased interaction in ANY school whether private or not has boundaries as laid down by the LAW and by the Teachers moral code.
There are clear and well laid out boundaries about what a teacher can and cannot do with regard to pupils.
If you think he is interested with you - never be caught alone with him and at leaast advise a friend or your parents of his actions - keep a diary with details of his actions and make sure you always behave appropriately. What he may be doing is preparing you - whether you are of age or not his behaviour may be inappropriate.
He may be genuinely be trying to help, but always try to keep things factual and not over friendly.
My daughter went through a similar experience and it has left her pretty much affected years later, please be careful!
Stv
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reader, itsnotmyproblem +, writes (23 March 2010):
first of all, all of us are attractive in our way. the fact that this man is intested shows that. secondly the man in question hasnt done anything inappropriate yet, so maybe backing off a little is the answer? how did he know you didnt have a lift? you told him, which shows you are conversing with this man about non school matters and he isnt even your teacher.if he continues to look at you in ways you find uncomfortable speak to an adult you trust. you are seventeen and this man could take advantage of you. beware!
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (23 March 2010):
 It sounds just a little farfetched at the moment. Carry on as normal but tell your parents or another teacher so that they're aware of the situation.
If he carries on acting strange or gets any worse then write a letter of complaint or ask if your parents can talk to the head teacher.
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