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writes:At 5' 11" I am a very tall woman that usually wears heels for work purposes that easily put me over 6'2. A couple of weeks ago while on my lunch break I walked over to the Book store to browse around and noticed this cute shorter guy eying the very top shelf. I could see that he looked up and then side to side as if he wanted to scale the shelf to get the book he wanted. I though it amusing so I walked over to ask if he needed some help which he quickly agreed to. After grabbing the book he wanted, we talked for a bit about our interests and such. He then said he had to leave and it was a pleasure talking to me. He hoped we could continue our conversation later on then asked for my Phone number. We have since been in contact and have a lot in common. I find myself thinking about him and although he has asked me out a few times for some drinks,I have found excuses to not go. My main fear is that people will think it's akward to see me with a guy who is only 5'7" to 5'8" ( my estimate, don't want to ask him. lol) since I have only dated guys my height or taller.Would you have any problems dating someone so much shorter, even if you both seemed to click? Reply to this Question
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reader, Kristy1600 +, writes (6 June 2011):
I'm 5'11 too and would be willing to a shorter guy. Who cares what anyone else thinks? If you like him go for it. Don't pass up a great guy just because you are afraid of what other people might think!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2010): It sounds like you have more issues dating the shorter guy than he has dating you. Ask yourself. Do you really need the approval of everyone else in public about the person you are dating? Ignorant people will give you negative attention and poke fun at your size difference but it really shouldn't matter if you like each other. If his lack of height really bothers you, it means you're not mature enough to accept him and I suggest you find another man who's certainly much taller than you. It's easier to hide your own insecurities by making sure you fit the typical dating culture of taller man/shorter woman.
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reader, daletom +, writes (7 September 2010):
Since you're attracted to him, go ahead and move into a dating relationship. In a few weeks, or months (after you are comfortable with each other), you can discuss the height question with him - and listen to what he has to say. He may be quite proud to be with a tall girl, and actually WANT you in heels! Since he is shorter than most men in our culture he has probably been in many situations where his height was a disadvantage and either accepted it, or compensated in other ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, I like the guy. He is fun and we have a great time together. It's funny because the more time I spend with him, the less I notice or care how tall he is. I have compromised wearing my flats and sandals around him and saving my heels when I'm alone or at work.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 September 2010):
 I would personally have a problem with it. Although, people shouldn't be judged on their looks, height included, I like to give everyone a fair shot at it. In the end, high isn't a deal breaker, it is just another factor. If he has enough great things about him to make up for it, then why not. I've dated a shorter guy. He didn't like me wearing heels lol!
A lot of men find taller women extremely attractive. Perhaps he will be great in bed....
But like I said, I would have had a problem with it. But that is just me. I like feeling small and feminine and wouldn't like a guy shorter than me, unless he had such a personality that he could still make me feel protected and feminine. Other women like other things, so if he floats your boat no one can judge you.
In the end, if you fall in love his hight will be the last thing on your mind unless you find him to be in perfect hight for certain things... Sorry for being a perv. But there were times it would have been perfect if my guy was shorter.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 September 2010):
 Do YOU like the guy ? And by that I also mean do you find him attractive, not just good at conversation ?
Yes ?
So what's your problem. Go ahead and date him. Don't tell me that you care about the judgement of "people" at large , including perfect strangers that never were and never be anything to you !
First, the guy is just shortish, not a sideshow freak. And second, even if he were the Hunchback of Notre Dame,-your choices only have to please you, not everybody and his sister.
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reader, daletom +, writes (4 September 2010):
You're right - some guys won't even consider a girl who isn't at least a few inches shorter than they are. My full adult height is 6'2 (188 cm), and my wife is just short of 5'10 (178 cm). I have always preferred tall women. I thought about the height question when I was much younger and decided that I wouldn't want my partner to be too much taller than I am - maybe up to 6'5 (196 cm) or so.
If I noticed a tall girl with a short guy I'd probably look a bit just because it's unusual - but there's nothing at all improper about it. And, it always looked like the short guys could have a LOT of fun slow-dancing with the really tall girls!
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