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writes:Why do taller women have so much hate for the shorter guys who approach them only to complain themselves about being single and the lack of quality available men? Is it so wrong for a short guy to be attracted to a woman more than a couple of inches taller? I've always been attracted to tall, curvy women with long legs but feel it's a neverending curse because I'm only 5'4.Should short guys just stick to short women and forget about the taller ones completely? If so, this means fighting the same losing battle because the short ladies hate on short men too. I'm not sexually attracted to men, but going gay seems like the best solution to find a companion. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): Male, 23. I stand 5 feet 2.
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Women that have no biases and would not discriminate are "already" married. They are already married/have a boyfriend and yes, they always placed a short man and a taller one on the same plane. It's always the short man's problem of low self esteem and he is responsible for his fate of not being accepted by any woman. He is always rude and unwelcoming.
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I have been rejected by every single girl I have proposed. I have a success rate of 0. Most women don't give me a chance to show them what I have to offer. Please stop lying that you would really consider a short guy.
I have given up all hope of finding love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010): From the OP
Thank-you everyone for the responses so far. I want to make it very clear to all that I'm not gay or attracted to men sexually. I've never been. I'm attracted to companionship, stimulating conversation, physical fitness, fine cuisine, and a happy quality of life.
Right now I'm past the point of making myself available to women because I've endured too much pain and rejection in my life. Not that I don't walk the walk with a positve attitude, smile or swagger because I know I'm a good looking guy. It so easy for a lot of you to say "have patience and the right woman will come along." I laugh at whimsical nonsense like this because the advice suggested means short guys should wait until the retirement age or past it to start dating because senior citizens have less restrictions about height? LOL. Not surprisingly the most polite and respectful women are senior citizens. Gay guys treat me respectfully too because I dress well, have nice teeth, I'm clean cut and I have a pretty fit body. Why don't women like what I have to offer? I honestly think they are intimidated by good looking guys and it's a curse to have a nice face that's on par with good looking male models. It's so frustating to have people tell you that you should be married with children, combining and sharing your good looks with an equally good looking woman. Another thing that's so annoying is when women categorize you as a Napoleanic figure just because you don't let people walk all over you. The Napolean excuse is just a cop out so women can easily avoid shorter aggressive men. I haven't quit on finding a good woman, but it's not like I'll be dissapointing anyone if I shut myself down sexually and stick to men.
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reader, Nime  +, writes (2 November 2010):
 It's all about your attitude. Although a taller guy is aesthetically appealing, if I think about all the guys I've ever been attracted to, most were around my height (5'6"), give or take a couple of inches. I have always gotten on well with guys; I like to talk to them. I like an articulate, loquacious, sharp kind of guy with an expressive face and the ability to make me laugh, and for some reason I've found the guys around my height meet my criteria far more often than tall guys do. With a tall guy, I often feel like I'm talking to a statue.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 November 2010):
 Let's face it, women DO prefer tall guys, and for a man being short is a social disadvantage. Not that he can't eventually find a fantastic gf, they usually do, tastes are different and everybody sooner or later meet their match- it's just that short guys have to work harder , and go though more rejection before they get their girl. Tall guys simply have a wider selection of choices.
I wonder though if it's the scarce height per se that's unattractive , or the attitude that often goes with it.
Now OP, I don't know you and I have no reason to doubt that you are anything else than a fine,top quality gentleman, so don't take it personally. But I have noticed that often short guys compensate their lack of height with cockiness and arrogance. They are always
defensive, easy to take offence for everything, always in need to assert themselves over irrelevant stuff. It's like they carry a poster with : Hey, don't think that just because I am short you can mess with me ! While it's obvious that a short person is worth the same as a tall one, they act as if they have to prove it every moment.
That's unappealing.
It's a bit like those very fat girls that will only wear leopard -print spandex or butt -baring miniskirts to show
that also big girls can be sexy. True ,they can- but more easily if they wear something tasteful instead.
Anyway, I am perhaps drifting away from the point of your question, to which my answer is : no, Op, if you like tall girls, just go for tall girls . You like what you like and there is no point forcing yourself to change your preferences just because short girls may be more accepting of your height. You don't care about being accepted by someone you don't like, I guess. Plus, as you said yourself, unluckily also short girls prefer tall guys. So if you have to risk rejection , at least you risk it for a woman you really like !
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (2 November 2010):
 Again, that's BS. I have a few mates at your height yet they still pull the birds, taller, no worries. 1) it's attraction. 2) clearly, it's your attitude.
If you are questioning your sexuality then mabey that's something you should explore, mabey thats where you'll find your happiness.
End of story.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): I know what you mean dude. I don't have that problem, I stand 6 foot 1. But I see what you are talking about, and understand, because everytime I see a really tall woman, I know I stand a good chance of being attractive to her. It seems to be the case, it sucks, it's not fair, but women do prefer tall to short men. But I'm a big man, and I'm attracted to short, small women. So it's very probable that the converse exists.I dated a girl that was 6 foot, and she was attracted to me because she said she felt smaller, and more feminine, so maybe you just have to figure out a way to appear more masculine. I'm sorry I couldn't be of more help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): I'm 5'9"' my 1st husband 5'6". I think attitude has more to do with it. Many short men have complex and are rude.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): I'm 5'10" and my fiance' is 3 inches shorter than me. In the dating field, I have dated men taller than me and shorter than me. When I've turned a man away, it's not about his height but rather who he is, how he carries himself, how he treats me ( I expect to be treated well) and how accomplished he is...it helps if he makes me laugh and I am relaxed with him :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): I'm a girl and 5'6 and I recently met a guy who was your height and I was instantly attracted and charmed by him....but I have a boyfriend (damn). To be honest, unless you have to go on tip toe to kiss me, I wouldn't mind having a shorter bf. My boyfriend is only an inch or two taller. If the attraction is there, height doesn't and shouldn't matter. It's very superficial, I think, to reject someone because of height.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (1 November 2010):
 I like shorter men, but I'm married.. :)
Anyways, I've dated men actually shorter than me and I'm 5'6''. I find them to be the same as average height to taller men..although I do notice some short men to be really cocky. Not sure why that is, maybe they're packing down south.
My point is their are women out there, who aren't going to reject you because of the height difference. Compensate for your height in other areas, such as personality, intelligence, in bed, etc..
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): Hey Griffo, there's a huge difference between 5'10 and 5'4 if you haven't figured that one out. Do the math my friend! Did you not read that I said I'm 5'4? Most women will flock to you because you are only inches shy of the required and desired 6'0 male height.
Try being a 5'4 small guy that short women equally don't like. Ever been passed off as a child because of your height? At 5'10? I don't think so. How would you feel if women didn't give you the respect attributed to fully grown men because you stand 5'4? Thanx for posting mate, but at 5'10, you wouldn't and couldn't understand where I'm coming from because you have height.
By the way, it has nothing to do with attraction. I've been told by enough women that I'm attractive, funny, articulate and smart. Just too short. I'm a nice guy but not a pushover. Maybe I should start treating women like garbage because they seem to love hooking up with the jerks and a-hole types that abuse them to no end.
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reader, Natalie:)  +, writes (1 November 2010):
 that totally not true where i live although generally speaking a lot of people go with people of similar sizes my dad is 5/5 and my mum is 6ft. Don't let your height restrict you or get you down! One of the hottest guys i've met was about your height and was like an irish hugh laurie (drool)
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reader, Griffo +, writes (1 November 2010):
I think that's BS mate. I've only ever been with taller women. I always wondered why do I always get the taller ones! especially when your question is brought up ... So figure that one out. I'm 5'10.
I think it has a lot more to do with attraction. What the hell are you doing when you approach women?????!!!! That's what you need to be thinking about or asking.
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