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*onfuzzled_in_cville
writes:I'm having more bumps in this relationship. Every other month all these bitter feelings burst out. Again I'm telling him that I want romanticism. I had to beg him today to cuddle with me. He knows i'm jealous of his female friends so he sneaks out of the house and stays out all night. What should i do? remind him again that this bothers me and I want him to make me feel special? or should i do something? Actions speak louder than words and theres nothing better than giving him a taste of his medicine ;) Please help out, i dont know what to do.
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reader, confuzzled_in_cville +, writes (19 June 2008):
confuzzled_in_cville is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou everyone. I tried to have a heart to heart with him but nothing was accomplished. I brought issues to the table and he denied most of it and all he kept repeating is "You realy don't know me do you?". But as of late I'm having sever anger issues. 1 small things sets me off. I thik i should treat that first so I'll have a clear head in how to deal with him. Its not wrong to want to feel special and appreciated is it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): I think you are in a no win situation. It is obvious that neither of you are happy in this relationship. For you to go out and give him "his own medicine", that will just be spitefull and totally immature.
I suggest you two should have a good heart to heart about the future of this relationship.
Why hang on to something that is not working, that is making you both miserable and unhappy. Be mature and discuss this and rather part as friends.
You are young, get out there, meet other people, find somebody that can make you happy and that is willing to give you the affection you are thriving for.
Good luck!
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (19 June 2008):
 There are two sides to every story. If he is sneaking out of the house maybe he feels you are smothering him a little bit it doesnt mean he is definately cheating. But the jealousy and constant demands for romance could easily push him into the arms of another.
I'm not saying you are to blame but you are not working together here at all, you wont allow him out alone and he doesnt make you feel special. It sounds as though this relationship has run its course x
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reader, confuzzled_in_cville +, writes (19 June 2008):
confuzzled_in_cville is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlets just say ive done things i shouldn't have done in the past. he acted accordingly and was devastated. this time around he admits his reactions to things are blase. I'm not sure, I want this to work but he never seem like a team player. Everyone says the share of everything is 90/10 or 80/20. Thankyou for the opinion.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (19 June 2008):
 When he's out, are you sure he's with his female friends? He could be with the boys... but, if you're sure, then it seems like you need to consider just how serious this relationship is to him... and it doesn't sound like it's at the top of his list. If you're honestly having fights every other month about the same thing, then it might be time to call this one done.
What's making this difficult for me is that there are two primary issues playing against each other... your jealousy and his lack of respect. If he's not respecting you, then trying to "give him a taste of his own medicine" might not work. I might be better to call this done and move on...
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