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writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for a little while now and i really love him and i know he loves me. He's had sex with two girls before and so is determind to take thing really slowly with me but i dont want him to be taking it this slowly.Ive tried sending him dirty texts etc and on saturday i got off with him for the first time(after about 3 months!) but now hes really worried he pushed it too far even though i told him it wasnt. How can i show him im fine with it?thanks=)
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 No need to stress over this really! If he loves you and you love him,taking time in getting to know one another is a wonderful idea. Take time for the romance, not only the sex. Learn how to communicate, share and give more without even having to deal with the pressures of sex.
Sex isn't everything! You will need much more than a good sexual relationship to make a good, long lasting partnership. You might not see things like this and I can understand but when you think about everything involved you will see. Sex is only the icing for the cake.....and you have to have the right ingredients to make a cake good even before you top it with Icing!
Take time to have fun doing lots of other things and keep the snails pace until it's really the right time. You will figure that out soon enough. 8-)
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Well by the sounds of it he really loves you and wants the relationship to work so you shouldnt be getting so worried, just try and calm down a little and enjoy your first few months together as they are the best!
I imagine he has slept with those people in the past and then regretted it as it hasnt worked out, and maybe he is worried about sleeping with you because he doesnt want you and him to go the same way.
I would try talking to him about it, explain that you really love him and want to take your relationship further. The best way to show him your fine with it is to not push it, he will have his reasons and when he is ready I'm sure he will be all over you!
Good things come to those who wait!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 December 2008):
 DOH!
"To those guys, we usually tell them to cool off, and not pressure the girl. So now that the shoe is on the other gender's foot, you need to cool off and NOT pressure the guy."
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 December 2008):
I think that you might be the one who is pushing too hard here. You don't have to show HIM that you're fine with it, it seems to me, because HE'S the one who doesn't seem fine with it. Does that make sense? You're actually going too fast and too far for him. Stereotypically, it's the guy who wants to do more and the girl who is reluctant. To those guys, we usually tell them to cool off, and not pressure the girl. So now that the shoe is on the other gender's foot, you need to cool off and pressure the guy.
The way to show him you're fine with it is to back off and just enjoy his company. Things will develop naturally and more healthily for the relationship that way. It's simply a matter of showing some patience and serenity.
Good luck!
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