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writes:Hi. This isn’t a dating question but I was hoping to get some advice here . I have rescued a lot of animals in my life and it’s not easy to get help/vets in this part of the world, especially for poor stray animals. I won’t even talk about the animal cruelty cases and how stray dogs are dealt with. And I do it all by myself with no help from anyone . Recently, I rescued 2 pups from the street who were lying on the road to die - no one cares here. It’s a normal sight meant to be ignored at every corner . It’s a lot of work, taking them to the vets, being there all the time despite a full time job. Another adult stray I care for has been sick lately and comes rushing to me all scared for comfort cause I’m the only person he trusts and someone has been hurting him on the streets, he is very scared. I haven’t slept in a week! No kidding. I have to comfort the stray adult, stay awake to keep an eye on the scared adult and the pups, now his health issues too. It’s taking a toll on me emotionally. I’m scared and anxious all the time. Scared for their health cause I’ve seen worst, and anxious because I really don’t know how to manage it and I can’t let them die on streets. It’s the emotional thing and fear that bothers me. I try to maintain my work and social life but these thoughts consume me, especially being scared about them all the time. How can I handle this situation? Should I seek someone to talk this out? I’m not the strongest person emotionally . I don’t react on the spot if I lose a pet/something bad happens but find myself crying in bed . Maybe I’m not meant for this? I don’t know Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2019): I think you are amazing person for doing what you are doing. Incredibly kind and thoughtful and brave. I wish everyone had the love and respect for dogs that you have. You are certainly doing an amazing job and have changed the dogs lives. I truly hope you manage to keep up the good work and also make time for yourself to relax and sleep.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2019): @cindycares
Of course , I know of shelters , I’ve had 11 dogs die there of parvo because animals are crammed in there in horrible conditions and workers aren’t paid, sometimes animals aren’t fed ... sometimes I regret sending them there . I feel responsible knowing the sad reality .
it’s not the same everywhere!
And they straight up REFUSE because they already have so many they can’t manage.
It’s true for every trusted shelters here, the good ones once assisted me in a treatment but asked me to keep them at my place because they simply can’t take anymore.
Thanks for your advice everyone . I was very emotional but I’ll do my best.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 August 2019):
 Ok, I want to say something that won't make me very popular with the OP nor with the readers at large, but I feel it needs to be said.It's not very surprising that in India they have stray dogs lying on the road to die and people does not seem to care . It's not a matter of natural born cruelty, - but simply of priorities ( and common sense ? ) In India , they have a problem of PEOPLE let lying on the road to die. I am sponsoring in his studies a kid , rescued by a reputable international organization and now living in a group home, and he was found, at age 3 , abandoned with a younger sibling IN A CARBOARD BOX on the side of a street in Pune . It's not a regular evenience- but it's not rare either ! When time, money, skills, personnel , accomodations for rescuing HUMAN beings are limited, there 's only so much sympathy and resources that you can spare for abandoned animals.
Even so, though, animals are not totally helpless in India: In fact, surprsingly enough, there are several rescue organizations. I googled " dog rescue in India" and just that quick, superficial search provided me with about 40 names of dog rescue outfits . Some are just local, but some others are big outfits with several branches in different cities and areas. I don't know where do you live in India, bit if you do a little " homework " with your computer, chances are that you can find an organization near you to whom you can give your stray dogs, or at least ask for help, support and advice.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (13 August 2019):
 Oh sweetheart, you hurt because you care. I can only imagine how painful it must be to watch these animals suffering from neglect and abuse and feel helpless. I am involved with dog rescues in the UK and we hear constantly of the dire conditions some dogs face in other countries (not that there are not neglected and abused dogs in the UK as well).
I hear all the time about the emotional stress of people who work in rescue. The logistics involved in saving as many dogs as possible (we slaughter thousands of dogs in the UK annually for no other reason than there are not enough homes for all the dogs which are thoughtlessly bred) while only having limited space, help and funds are often overwhelming.
Do you have any dog/animal rescues based reasonably near you who you could approach for help/guidance/emotional support? It must be very difficult for you, trying to cope all alone. The only non-UK rescues I know of are in Sri Lanka and a few European countries, so I am not able to make suggestions.
Sending lots of hugs because you obviously have such a good heart. Don't burn yourself out otherwise you will not be any use to yourself or any of these animals. Also remember, you cannot save them all, but the ones you do save will have had their lives changed for ever.
Sorry, don't know what else to suggest. I really feel for you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 August 2019):
 Are there any animal shelters or rescues where you are at?
If so, maybe look into them and see if THEY can take over the animals, and MAYBE you can look into volunteering there instead of bringing rescues home.
You are doing a good thing, but it has to WORK for you as well as for the animals. Maybe you can look into some DECENT people who might want a puppy (just watch out when you advertise).
Having emotions and NOT liking to see suffering even in animals doesn't make you weak, it makes you human. And empathetic.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (12 August 2019):
 It's a sad reality that animals die in nature, whether there's abuse or not. There's really not much you can do. Draining your financial resources and emotional energy would not be practical for your life. A better thing to do is to encourage or try to make spaying/neutering more available in your city.
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