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writes:Hey there folks, I'm in a bit of a pickle and have a kind of "two in one" question if you'll bare with me here? I'm 21 years old and just starting my college education.I moved to a small town in California from northern Canada two years ago (I literally knew no one there) and met this great guy...or at least he appeared to be at the time.For the first little while he told me all these horror stories about how he "was in the army,hurt his knee and couldn't serve" and "had to quit high school to work for his parents and help them". Stories exactly like those, sometimes even more outrageous..and of course, I try to see the best in people and believed him. Later to find out he was 27 years old,lived with his grandmother,wasted all his money on pot before I even met him, was a compulsive liar and mega mooch -none of what he said was true, not one word! :( I felt so horrible and taken advantage of! I had bought him the most expensive video game systems and even a big screen tv...all the time thinking HE was the one who got stomped on by the world. This was all recent, and now I'm being given the option to go back home to Canada to live there...I could leave promptly and literally just "dump his butt" or wait until the new year and attempt to leave on better terms...I don't know what to do? Is he even worth the time after all he's done?Also when I am to leave I was hoping to donate the television and video game systems I bought for him to a local Orphanage for Christmas, as I believe someone like himself no longer deserves free rides and pity...am I wrong to give away those things I had gotten for him? They aren't the only things, but they are the most expensive. Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): Ok, I'm a bit confused. You went to California to study, and now you're going to come home to Canada, either immediately or after Christmas? What about your studies? Surely this loser isn't going to get in the way of what you need to do. (Not that we don't want you back home :) )
I don't want to sound unfeeling, but the guy is a non-issue. You need to dump his butt ASAP. I commend you for wanting to donate the electronics. The only issue there is how to get them away from him intact, because he sounds like the type who'd simply trash them if they were going to be taken away. Get a (strong, beefy) guy from the orphanage to accompany you, without notice, and load it into a truck.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (8 October 2009):
 I think you more than within your rights to dump this con artist's butt right away and give all the expensive gifts you bought him to charity! No, he is not worth giving the time of day, he lied to you and used you. It's up to you what terms you want to leave on, but all I'm saying is that you're well within your rights to leave just like this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): You need to get your business in order and dump this SOB... if you gave him these things as gifts they may be his, and you may not have the right to give them away. However, I would be justice served and to a good cause. I'd just make sure that you can get them out of the house quickly and disapear forever... hopefully he won't try to follow you back, and can't make life rough for you.
I'd love to see you donate them to a shelter, or hospital.
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