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writes:My ex is confusing me. We have broken up for a year exactly. I never initiate any communication....but always reply...short answers but I do. The last 3 months he's been writing more and more...after that...he asked if i was going to see a band we both liked and i was goign with my freinds...he said he wanted to meet me there and to let him know. My friends decided not to go anymore so we all went somwhere else to hang out. When the concert starts he calls twice...asks where I am and I told him the situation. He then says if i wanna go to another concert to just call him and we'll go together. I said ok even though there's no way in hell im doing that. Now i havent heard from him in 3 weeks...I dunno if he's seeing anyone but consiring he's asking to see me in the weekends...i figured maybe not....but i just dont get it. What do you guys think he wants? he knows he's not getting any from me....so...i also doubt we can be friends....it just wont work.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): btw...i never said i didnt wanna be friends...just that it wont work being friends...i know that for a fact. (i didnt write the topic)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): part of me wants to give it another chance....but i still think it wont work. So i dont really wanna try again....does that make sense? when i dont answer his txts he keeps asking why I dont. But deep down i know you're right. thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): I think he may be trying to be friends but if you don't think it will work then tell him so.
If you want to know what he wants from you then ask him.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (8 October 2009):
 And I forgot to add: he doesn't want you or to start over with you, he's contacting you for his own selfish needs, to make himself feel good, to know that you're still there and to know that he has the power over you. Don't let him do this to you...cut him out completely.
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reader, Lexie88 +, writes (8 October 2009):
Aha, so you still want him don't you?That's why it matters so much to you to know what he wants. He's confusing you because he can. He texts you and you reply so of course he's going to continue...and who knows why, but I can assure you that his intentions are not good.You say that you don't think you even want to be friends but I can tell that you still want something...if you don't want him per se, maybe you want to feel wanted...maybe you want us to tell you that this guy still wants you.If you want to be finished with him then do it...but I think that you still want him and that's why he's 'confusing' you. He texts and you answer, he asks about another concert and you agree, and now he's not been in touch for weeks. He's enjoying the attention and the knowledge that you still reply to him. What will happen when he texts you after a month of nothing? You will reply and by doing that let him know he still has power over you...don't do this to yourself please, you're worth more than that.If I was you I would leave him alone, don't reply to him anymore, get on with your life, there's nothing to be gained here. Do you want to meet someone new? You won't be able to if this guy still has the power to yank your chain like this.
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