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writes:If a girl had sex for 1 or 2 minutes with another man and stopped and this was the only sexual encunter that she has ever had and knew what she did was wrong. Then was loyal to her husband after that for the rest of her lfe would that make her tainted goods? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): Show me a person who stopped after apparently one minute and I will call him/her a hypocrite and a liar to his/her face.
Sex is sex. It doesn't matter how long it lasted. The deed was done.
If you want to accept this 'tainted good' person by all means do. But don't be fooled when you say she stopped after a minute. That is laughable.
To me sex is a very personal thing. If I engage in a sexual act it is bec I want it to happen and no, I will not stop after a minute.
Who had the timer on. As I said sex is sex, it doesn't matter on the duration of the act.
Perhaps this woman needs to give you some credit and not compound her act by lies. It just makes it worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): If she lied about this then she is "tainted" for sure. Lying is wrong.
Secretly exposing people to STI risks is even more wrong. Not all STIs will show up on tests. The only way you can make an informed decision about the risk you take is to hear the truth from your partner about their past.
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reader, als77  +, writes (9 January 2011):
A few generations ago most people would have answered yes , but in our generation most people would say no... There is no correct answer to this question, because this is a question of morality.I suppose the question is based on a "wait until marriage" point of view (which I share). In general my advice is to try to accept that other people have different views and luggage (unfortunately I have problems with this). In this spesific case I assume (since you are asking this question) that your friend feels "betrayed" in some sort because of this. I think he should try to accept/"forgive" the incident. Maybe he can find some comfort in her stopping and "coming to her senses"? (this makes it a choice from her part, and not by chance).
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reader, Illithid +, writes (8 January 2011):
 You don't say that she cheated, just had a small sexual encounter outside of marriage. Not only is she NOT tainted, she's nearly a saint by modern standards.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis question was asked by my friend
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reader, SillyB +, writes (8 January 2011):
 Nope. The person that is tainted is the one that thinks this way!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): Maybe he does think the same thing about a guy who did that too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): No it wouldnt. For a start shes not 'goods' shes a human being. And all of us make mistakes sometimes. Its how we learn. A person isnt tainted because of one mistake that they know to be a mistake. Maybe your love for them might be tainted but thats different.
I think if she did one thing wrong and knew it was wrong and was loyal to her husband for the rest of her life, then she should be exonerated and forgiven.
I have a vision of some poor sole having a few minutes of sex with a man. Then committing herself for LIFE to a husband who thought of her as tainted goods. That sounds so sad. They should have parted if he couldnt get over her past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): No, she'd be loyal to her husband for the rest of her life.People are people, not "tainted goods".However, it usually isn't that simple."had sex for 1 or 2 minutes"You just don't have sex for 1 or 2 minutes, you have to get to the sex first, and then get away from the sex. It's a lot more complex emotionally.Are you giving a real world example? If so, you should flush it out more with details, if this is a hypothetical situation I'd agree with the earlier poster "step into the 21st century".
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): Is this really a serious question? If so you clearly have problems with how you view females.
Why would a female who had sex once with another guy before she married a life parter, be tainted? No more than a guy would be..Concentrate on stepping into the 21st I should if I were you!
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