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writes: 16 year old girl and has never been kissed?! Why do I feel as if no guy does not like me in a way to want to get to know me? I can grind with a guy and he can get a boner, but no guy wants to get to know me?Why is it that I feel that no guy wants to get to know me at all? Reply to this Question
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reader, RichTea  +, writes (4 December 2009):
 Good, just be a friend and think about how you want them to treat you. If you know how you want to be treated, its so much easier to be friends with people because you can treat them the way you want them to treat you.
But dont become too obsessive about just being there friend. If your always trying to talk to them, you are going to give off the impression that your desperate. Treat them the way you would treat your other mates.
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkie Dokie, I will get to know them :)
Nothing happened in the past but thats okay
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reader, RichTea +, writes (3 December 2009):
Am not saying your a slut.
But maybe yu are giving off the wrong idea to people because of something that happened in the past.
Do try and get to know someone, even if its just to be friends. Lads want to get to know the real you, not the person they think you are because of something that happened in the past.
Thanks for the follow up and your right, it will happen at the right time and it will be with the right person.
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your good advice. And RichTea again I'm not a slut it was at a dance and just for fun its not something I do on a regular basis, that was 4 months ago and I have not done it since(I am not the kind of person to grind every guy there is and put myself out there)I dont want to sound desperate, because i'm not its just kind of hurtful that no guy has gotten to know me enough to want to know more or kiss me later in the future.But that is okay because it will soon come and hopefully with the right person.
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reader, RichTea +, writes (2 December 2009):
You sound as though you are giving yourself a bad name.
'Grinding and boners'
Why not try to get to know a lad the way you would want someone to get to know you.
If you jut try to talk to a lad and get to know them, then you never know, they might want to get to know you.
Be yourself around lads and show them who you really are.
Im not advising this but the first time i kissed someone was playing truth or dare in the middle of a field. Im not proud that it was the first time i got kissed and im not proud of who it was with, but it happened and that was only a year ago.
Good Luck
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (2 December 2009):
 Guys your age aren't always the best conversationalists; some can be so focused on themselves, they don't relate well to others who aren't in their immediate social group. Others are very shy still. Don't take it personally. Just be yourself, and work on your own conversation skills with people you do manage to get into conversation. Try to find the shy ones and make it easy to talk to you.
Again, if you're starting a conversation with a guy, don't do it with the idea that he's going to become your boyfriend or that you are going to kiss him. Just talk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt was at a dance I mean I'm not a slut or anything just for fun at a dance. I mean at school or out of school when I hang out with a guy they never want to get to know me.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (2 December 2009):
 It's ok, you just haven't found the right one yet. In 26 years I have only had one boyfriend - and that was in grade school - how sad is that? But I'm not sad though, I know the right one will come along.One piece of advice though, stop grinding with the boys - if that's their first impression of you, they're going to think you just want to "get it on" rather than get to know them. If you go slow and get to know a boy, the two of you will grow a bond and have similar interests and I promise you, you will get your first kiss :)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 December 2009):
Stop grinding with them; they think you don't care enough about yourself to wait until you're with someone you truly like. It sounds like you may be trying too hard.
What do you like? What makes you interesting? What makes your heart beast faster? Develop your strengths because people who are passionate about something can be really appealing when they talk about it.
Also when you are a bit desperate, that comes across, and people, guys included, avoid desperate people. It's when you are relaxed and confident and calm that people will be drawn to you.
Take care!
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reader, Dazed_and_Confsued +, writes (2 December 2009):
Oh hunny, I promise, you're not the only one. I was a sophomore in high school and still waiting for the day that finally, someone, anyone would kiss me! Don't rush it, you don't want to kiss the first loser that comes along because for the rest of your life you're going to look back and remember your first kiss. I'm sure you're like me and there are girls at your school that have kissed and much much more and you're feeling alone and left out, but, I promise you.. Most of them are lying! And the ones that aren't, well you don't want to be like THOSE girls.
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reader, jeslet992 +, writes (2 December 2009):
Maybe you should try less grinding, more talking. If you want a guy to want to get to know you then try to make it seem like you aren't just a piece of ass. If you grind with a guy then try to get know him then he won't think if you the way you want. On the other hand, you could just go for the easy way and kiss the guy you're grinding on. Some people just take a while to find the right guy who really wants to get to know you. I'm sure you're just overreacting.
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reader, KANDIWRPR +, writes (2 December 2009):
 it sort of sound like you are
giving out a bad name to urself
"grinding and boners?"
maybe you just havent met the right person to get to know
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