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writes: Hello, I have just found out that my so-called boyfriend that loves me (or says he does) was lying to me the whole time. I have asked him several times, was he married and he replied that he was not and that he was very happy with me. I have to admit, I did have a premonition and did suspect, however, I gave him the benefit of the doubt. What is really strange, I am a little hurt, but not devastated. Should I be? Although he treated me very will and with a great deal of resect (outside of lying to me), I am confident that there is someone out there even better! The way I look at it, he is the one who lost out-not me-not to mention the selfish coward he is. Anyway, I got that phone call from his wife (after retruning his call to me 30 minutes earlier) telling me not to call her "husband" anymore. How do I cope? because, I feel a little relieved. However, I don't want to suddenly fall into a depression. Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (13 April 2011):
 Ride with this feeling.
Address any sad feelings you have, don't bottle them up - because then they could grow and suddenly take over. But, it sounds like you're doing the right thing. You're a little sad, sure... but mostly you're relieved and kinda disgusted with his behavior. You know he's a lying scum bag and that you deserve WAY better! He treated you well, okay - but he didn't actually because secretly he was going home to a wife, family and disrespecting all the women in his life.
You cope by thanking your lucky stars you didn't waste any more time with him, pity his wife and give yourself a healthy dose of praise for leaving a situation and man not worthy of you. You go girl!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 April 2011):
 Leave the married guy totally alone, stay busy, and keep patting yourself on your back for doing the right thing. I don't think you sound at risk for depression. You'll be fine.
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