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51-59,
*JETS
writes:ok here goes i suspect my husband of 15 years is involved with another woman the best part i know her and she is a cousin of his the better part is she lives very far away so physiacl contact is out of the question unless vacations are arranged with our families which has occured the phone calls are way to many to be friendly and i know they are sexually explicit with web cam and all we have children and lead a decent financial life now the real clincher is this has taken place in the last 2 1/2 years my husband has let me know he thinks i had a affair a while ago 6 years (i did not) and now it suddenly becomes a problem for us the last 2 years i have considered professional help for myself i am really confused but he is even more and refuses to work things out.i will be glad to add any other details just ask.
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reader, DJETS +, writes (13 April 2010):
DJETS is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the input but i should say there are several life changing factors involved on his part and i have had my share of headaches to deny a quickie but he doesnt realize we both crave affection just in different forms him lustfully me i prefer thoughtfully does that make any sense?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): If your husband is so sexually frustrated that he turns to his own cousin for fulfillment, he is to be pitied and helped and you are probably the best person to do that. Recognize that all parties involved are merely seeking happiness, as humans must, and try to communicate love, honesty, and a desire to understand him.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 April 2010):
Him thinking that you had an affair 6 years ago is how he justifies his actions. Which are wrong. Sadly, he's now refusing to work things out. That leaves you with two options. One, you accept he is having the affair. Two, you give him an ultimatum to either cease all contact, or you will leave. And you need to mean it. Do not sit there taking your husband's crap. And it is crap. He knows very well you didn't have an affair. He's just saying that so he can have his affair. Personally, I'd throw him out and never take him back. I think you can do better than this man. He has no reason for an affair at all. You do not need to be second best. You can find a far better guy.
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