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female
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41-50,
*issy Cecilia
writes:Me and this guy already had the talk on the 3rd week after all the daily extreme sweet dates which i knew that’s a big mistake already.He told me he's in fear to be in any relationship again due to the last 2 3+3 years were too hurtful and also his parents failed marriage, he hasn't seeing anyone else now but as normal guy he backed off but still seeing me. Somehow i was too emotional on one time when we're at the party which i was totally ignored him and he got mad about this. Anyway I apologized in a really cool way and told him all because i didn’t feel comfortable and feel embarrassed while in public which I feel i had to hide the feelings for him (Which he told me before we never needed to hide it from friends).He accepted the apology and also said he's sorry too but we have yet see each others again for 2 weeks already since that happening while actually he had 2 friends visiting the city in between but he still texted me once a while like around 1-2 days to see how am I doing but without any planing to meet yet. And i am still arranging the maid for the weekly cleaning which I'm deciding to end doing this tho.He just called me the night before yesterday but i missed, i then returned by a text 2hours after staying real cool and said i acknowledge the missed call but not sure if misdialed but i was anyway in the movie. then he replied he really meant to call and was just call to see how am i doing. So I told him i am doing great having fun and met new friends and stuff. he also told me about his same life thing which all i knew even he doesnt tell and said good to know i'm doing okay. Anyways the problem is he doesnt seem willing to ask to see me or i dont know if he's waiting for something from my end???Please advise what should I do if I still hoping for something with this man and is there any possibility or he actually lost interest already? Thanks and your reply will be great appreciated.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (7 September 2012):
Hi there. When you said - "We had the talk on the 3rd week" - who instigated the talk?
Was it you? Or was it something he brought up in conversation?
It's never really appropriate to bring up the subject of - "Where is this relationship going?"
The reason I say this, is because it puts the guy on the spot to make a decision right there and then.
And most times, men are just not ready to start thinking about the future so soon in a new relationship.
It usually scares the hell out of them!
When he texts you or calls you to see how you are, sound interested in him and what he's doing - and be genuine -
because if you sound like you are doing just fine without him in your life, he could take that to mean you are really no longer interested in him now.
So that's something for you to keep in mind.
Be interested in him, and what he has to say, but don't sound like you are desperate and are finding it hard to cope when you are not seeing him.
And whatever you do, DO NOT ask him if he is seeing anyone at the moment - which can come across as needy and clingy.
That is something that pushes men away, so you need to be very careful.
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