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writes:Ok, so i have been dating ben for 2 years now, i am 15 and he is 16, he was also the first guy i was intamate with. But, for the last 3 months we have been getting to comfortable with each other, i feel as if i am one of the guys when were alone and then im his girlfriend when were out with his friends and he never wants to hang out with his friends when i at his house, he could be throwing a party and when im there he isolates me and him in his room away from everyone and then he will try to have sex with me and when i don't want to he gets mad for like a half hour then he tries again, it is kind of frustrating. And when we text each other he can't go five minutes without trying to have phone sex with me, and if i don't put a smiley face after my messages he thinks i am mad and gets upset. all we do is say things over and over agian like i can predict what he is going to say. we can't talk about real life because me and him dont like the same music or sports but somehow we've stayed together for 2 years. I like other guys and i kind of want to date other guys sometimes so i can have the high school experience everyone talks about but i don't want to break up wiht him and hurt his feelings. I have tried to break up with him before but then he starts to cry and i feel bad and get back together. i don't know how to explain it but it's kind of like the one song " stuck like glue" by sugarland, when im apart from him for a while i kind of want to date other guys but when im with him i love him and im excited to see him. I don't know what to do. And his parents, OH HIS PARENTS! :) his father hates me and i mean hates me, he banned me from his house for a month because i forgot to say thank you like one time, and his mother, i feel bad for her because the father treats her like crap but she likes me and is nice to me. so my relationship with him is just confusing. so here is where my problem is, I just enrolled in this school that lets me focus on my passion, baking, for a semester then go back to the school ben goes to the next semester, so i don't see ben that much. and around the second week of being at my baking school this guy came up to me, his name is henry, and he started to talk to me but i told him i had a boyfriend so he kind of backed off because his friends told him ben would beat him up if he found out. but just recently i got henry's number and we've been texting for a couple days now, he is a really nice guy, i texted him for six hours straight and he didn't say one cuss word or talk about sex, (when i started talking to ben for the first time i would ask him what he was doing and he would answer me "masterbating"). So that made me like henry. he is a very sweet guy, he likes baseball like me and we have the same favorite team, (ben dosen't like baseball). I even think that me and henry have more in common then me and ben which makes me more confused in what to do. i am worried that if i choose henry we will only see each other that one semester but he has a car and ben doesen't so he could come visit me sometimes. I'm just not sure what to do, please give me advice on what to do.
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reader, Racna1305 +, writes (21 November 2010):
 Well...lol ok ben might not like you for who you are. It might just be lust or physical attraction. Sex last for 30-45 mins and after that what do you have? Well you gotta have something in common if you want things to work, gotta be able to talk, do things other than sex. You need to be honest with ben and tell him how you feel, you cant feel bad about hurting his feelings because there is no nice way to break it off with someone. You dont seem happy in that relationship...
Now for henry...you gotta ask yourself this. You have a boyfriend and henry knows this. So why are you two texting? You're already lying to ben cause im sure he doesnt know you are texting henry for 6 hours. And Henry is disrespectful because you have a boyfriend and he knows this so why are you guys communicating like this? It makes things difficult for you and it causes unnecessary drama. You are basically cheating on ben since you have feelings for a guy you sre TEXTING. So yes break it off and if Henry is the one you like then go for it and just because a guy doesnt talk about sex upfront doesnt mean he is that "nice guy" be careful you're young. Dont let Henry be the excuse for you not to like Ben, try to work things out with ben if you really do care for him. You guys have been together for a while so there has to be something, maybe u spent tooooo much time together, thats common in relationships. Talk to ben tell him where he stands and give ben a chance to make things right
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