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writes:Alrightyz, even if you don't answer, thank you for reading. But i am hoplessly tore between the most horrible decision ever. Ever since i was a little girl i've planned to move to california right after high school to get my degree in aquatic biology. Now I've been friends with this kid since kindergarden. And about a month ago started dating him. We're extremely happy together ^-^ and when i asked him if he'd be interested moving with me. He said no.. He'd rather stay here. And i can understand why. But it still hurts. And i want to get my degree. But with marine biology i have to travel alot. And idk if i can move all the way across the united states from him. I love him. With all my heart, but i'm only me when im near watr (or him) idk if i can give up half of myself. so now im between choices. Give up school and stay with him. Or lose him forever and go to california. (Im not the only one going, its me my cousin and some of her friends)Plz help Thank you
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (18 August 2008):
 Hey sweet,
As someone who has given up her dream college for her dream man, let me tell you - it is VERY, VERY, VERY difficult. I really think that unless you guys are engaged or something, you need to pursue that degree of yours, or else you may end up resenting your man, or worse - giving up on yourself. There are ways to stay in touch, and in the end you'll respect yourself more if you do what you need to do for your life.
School doesn't last forever, as CupidGuy points out, and after you go to school you'll have a lot more options for a lifetime together with your fella.
I really encourage you to go to school. It's a tough choice, but as someone who really wishes she had gone to that dream school... I really believe that you'll feel better four years from now when you're graduating from CA with your degree in Biology.
Best of luck to you, sweetness!
xx India
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reader, les +, writes (18 August 2008):
Go get your degree. There are so many wonderful guys out there (esp in CA!!!!!) and you're way too young to change your life for one guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008): go for your degree u'll regret it forever if u dont. These always a chance u can make things work with this guy after. Plus u will meet so many new people at uni.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (18 August 2008):
 how old are you? from wat age you put up i can only guess you are no more than 15 - which is ridiculously young to have your life planned out for you..including career and the man you want to be with. you have only been seeing this guy for about a month - of course he is going to say no when you ask him to move with you. a month is way to short a time to think you are ready to move away together. there is only so much you can know about eachother relationship wise in a month!!
i think you need to slow down and realise that at this young age many things can change and happen before you even finish high school.
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