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writes:Hello! =) I've gradually have been gaining weight, i hadn't noticed for the longest time but then one day in November-December-ish, i noticed i was starting to get stretch marks on my tummy and tighs n stuff, ever since then i've been freaking out and stressing about my weight gain- In the past few months it has gotten so bad my boyfriend tells me he doesn't know what to do with me anymore and he doesn't know if he should keep calling me perfect and beautiful because i don't seem to realize i am. I cried for nights and weeks- wanting to feel better about myself and stop torturing my lover with my negativity of my chubby self. I'm just used to being miss skinny mini with all the boys after her- ARG! ha. I'm not worried about the other boys at all anymore- I just wish to feel more confidence and sexy. for me and my lover. What can I do? Or i should say How can i feel better about myself? (I don't want to hear anything about food- that's not my issue; I'm not an over eater! please don't assume that.)I wanna be sexy for summer and for him AND me!!! =)
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reader, Pandaholic123 +, writes (28 March 2009):
Pandaholic123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question You ladies help me a lot just readng your responses to my question, You make me feel a bunch better and make me smile. =) Thank you. And please do add more! Like your favorite exercise, favorite healthy snacks, etc, etc. Thank you sooo much!
One of my favorite snacks are Sun chips.
I use Eliptical trainers al the time at the Highschool near me- AWESOME! ha. I will admit i've been falling behind on my gut work outs and etc... =/ I shouldn't have. I run a bit too around the highschool track.
But the weird thing is- No matter how much i do and how often...I never seem to loose weight or stop gaining more stretch marks n stuff... =(
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2009): What I do when I start to feel crappy about myself (b/c i can be very very hard on myself too) is I go for a run or a job, or I do sit ups, or throw in a dance video. I just do some sort of exercise and it really makes me feel better. I have stretch marks too, and while I have not tried this, I was told by two close friends of mine to put straight Vitamin E on them. They buy the gel caps of vitamin E and break them open and rub the gel on their stretch marks. It could be something worth trying, but I don't know for myself if it works, they have had children though and do not have stretch marks. Anyway, but maybe just getting up and moving will help you with your attitude towards yourself, I know it really helps me. Even if I spend a couple hours in my garden or cleaning my house top to bottom, I know i'm burning calories and getting some exercise and it makes me feel better.
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (27 March 2009):
 Actually, stretch marks is your body's way of saying "hey, my skin is elastic and healthy!". Just imagine if your skin is so dry and brittle, that when you do move or do exercises, your skin breaks and bleed :-( Not a pretty sight, as well as painful!
As for gaining weight, think of what you do and eat now that is different than when you were skinny mini. Metabolism rate changes with age as well as with exercises. The type of foods being eaten also can add pounds to the flesh. So the "math" is only to balance between the right kind of food intake with the right kind of energy outputs (exercise, or simply walking to work and going up stairs in the office/school/apartment) on a daily basis.
Think of your stretch marks as your personal tattoos that were custom made to you only. And if your boyfriends looks at them, tell them they have to "pay" for doing it, with a kiss. On the stretch marks! The more marks you have, the more he has to kiss them!
I personally think the natural look is way better than the "perfect" [with concealer make up] looks. But that is just my preference. So applying "skin food" such as baby lotions, or creams [my personal fave is virgin coconut oil] is always a good idea. Oils or creams that have a little bit of vit E is also not bad.
Those perfect skin looks in magazines? They've all been digitally altered to look flawless of course.
And when people look at you in your two piece swim suit, believe me, they will not be looking at those stretch marks. They'll be looking at those curves, and say "what a hottie!"
[what's the sign for blowing wolf whistle? lol]
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reader, Pandaholic123 +, writes (27 March 2009):
Pandaholic123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question=)i know alot of people have them. I just feel like i could be more confident in my two piece swim suit better without them ha ha. thank you for the tips though! =) I'm gonna give them a try. I hope i'll feel better once they fade! lol. =P
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