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writes:I am 15 years old and I have really been finding the past few terms at school difficult. I have a lot of stress from exams and courcework (who doesn't!!) and I have a friend who is currently very ill at the moment. I have tried to do everything I can to support them but they just don't seem to be getting better and considering it is the last year at high school it is really upsetting to see them get worse by the day. There is obviously the stress of the prom as well and looking for a dress and I can't talk to my parents about how much stress I feel I am constantly under. I don't think I am very good at time management becuase I hardly have any breaks or lunches at school becuase of additional activities like meetings and courcework catch up sessions etc. I'm also late regularly after school on a dailybasis and I'm sure you can see why I struggle to find free time.I was just wondering if I should talk to a teacher about this because I am really starting to worry it will effect my results when I do my final exams. I know a teacher who is concerned about me and they feel I am stressed becuase I constantly get colds, I'm tired most of the time and I have a constant head ache for weeks on end. I know in class I have been struggling to concentrate becuase my friend rings me at like 3am every morning needing help and it has really started to tire me out. The teacher who is concerned about me knows a bit about whats going on with my friend but he doesn't know how mentally ill she really is. He knows about the phone calls because I fell asleep in his class (woops lol) so I told him and he told me to switch it off but like I do every night I forget or I worry becuase I know my friend needs my help. DO you think I should talk to my teacher or do you think I will be ok until the end of the year and just get on with things?Sorry the post is so long x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You all for your amazing advise :D
I had a wonderful prom although my friend wasnt able to go for safety reasons but she is much better. I finsihed my exams and got A grades and my teacher was very happy to help me. After I finished my exams (I was very bored) but I decided to help my friend with her i.t. and she now has 5 gcse's ad is going on to study her a levels :D
Thank you all again and I hope that if anyone in a similar situation to where I was reads this..x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): I'm glad you spoke to the teacher :) and are getting everything sorted. Keep up the good work and you'll be doing great in the exams! Sorry to hear about your friend -it isn't your fault, give her time to calm down and talk to her again. Have lots of fun at your prom and good luck with the exams!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI managed to talk to my teacher today and they were really glad that I decided to talk to them. They said they were available at break times and afterschool any time if I needed to catch up on work or just wanted help so I don't worry too much about the exams so I'm really happy about that. However my friend had a go at me and accused me of forgetting about her since she was put in the hospital. She also said it was my fault she was in their in the first place and that she never wanted to get better so I hope that she has managed to alleiviate all her anger.
I found a prom dress with my mum as one of the aunts said I should and I'm really I don't have to worry too much about the prom.
Thank You all again for your advice - it has a done me world of good :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advise. I will make sure I talk to my teacher when we go back to school. I will have a word with my friend later about the phone calls and setting a time barrier. (Just hope that they don't get angry lol)
Justme: I don't really get along with parents too well so I have never been able to talk about much with them. They don't really know about my friend being ill or anything and they don't really notice me too much. That is why I would prefer talking to my teacher because I have student-teacher relationship with them (lukily lol)
I would talk to a school counceller but as Army Medic had pointed out we dont have one in the UK but the teacher I would like to talk to did do a psychology in university before deciding to be a teacher.
Thank you for the replies
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (18 April 2009):
 To our anonymous female poster, in the UK we don't have school counsellors who do degrees in child psychology. Our teachers are actually good enough to deal with these problems themselves.
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reader, Tevote  +, writes (18 April 2009):
 Ok I understand what you're going through, I really do.
But you're going to pull through this.
Yes you could talk to your teacher if you trust them enough and you feel you can express yourself to them. BUt they're likely to suggest you speak to a counselor because they may not be able to help you as much as they'd like to.
Try to get through this, take any advice you can if you think it's going to help you. You need to get away, relax try not to worry about school- if you have assignments, start them as soon as you get them, don't leave them until the last minute. When you do them straight away, you will have more time to relax.
So yeah talk to your teacher if you feel they will help, it's always good to have someone that you trust to talk to about these things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): The person you really should talk to is your school counsellor- they have licenses and degrees in counselling to address these issues in students. They can also work with your teachers on an appropriate course of action, that's what they're there for and it's free!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): I think you need to de-stress a bit before you carry on with a pile of extra work outside of school. If you're always stressed out you won't be able to concentrate so much. You should definately keep your phone off during the night! If your friend needs help explain to her that you are happy to help but at a reasonable time, say before 10pm? And yes go to see a teacher! Or maybe a careers/college adviser? (if you're in year 11 they should be about at your school), or go to your local connexions centre? They will know how hard it is for students at this time of year. I was in that situation 2 years ago and I was so worried about exams and coursework, but I made time for socialising so I could still have fun and relax a bit. Anyway, if you can't talk to the above I suggested then talk to your parents or a friend :) Good luck with you school...I reckon you'll do fine!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (18 April 2009):
Yes talk to your teacher about this! That is what they are paid for!
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reader, justme..x +, writes (18 April 2009):
 hey :)
definately, you should talk to this teacher...especially if you can't talk to your parents (why not?)
Here you have someone who is aware that you are under pressure and is available to talk to. Make the most of it.
About your phone calls, obviously you want to be there for your friend so I don't think you should switch it off altogether. But, give her a time barrier in which she can call you and talk to you: like, earliest is around 6:45am and latest is around 10pm so you can get enough sleep.
Your teacher might be able to offer you help with your heavy workload at a more convenient time. He can also offer you reassurance about how you're doing with the work like no-one else can!
I'd go and talk to him maybe before school or after, when you have time and he is alone.
Good luck! xxx
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