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writes:Stress eats up our relationship, communication, sex and everything. How can I improve it?.... My husband had not been lucky about his career for the past few years. He tried to be his own boss by doing real estate. He just quitted his job when we first met. I had no problem with that. I persuaded him to get the license and I think I called it "totally supportive". Anyway, we were living of credit cards and hoped he can close some deals that will pay them off. He did close some deals but the income could not cover credit cards high interest. It didn't help that one of his friend borrowed his credit card to pay some bills and borrowed some money. The friend was recently homeless that time because of the divorce. My husband is a good man and felt bad for that guy. I could not say anything because those money are not mine. I was not able to work at that time dued to my legal paper work. I was a stayed home housewife for 6 months then I got a job. My job was not a lowest pay but it possibly cover for only half of the house payment. We cought up on many bills. Last year, we finally agreed that he may need to get a job which pay on regular basis. I was pregnant on our first baby. It seems to be better. He made a bit more than double my pay. It sounds good right?? No actually, what we made was not even enough for paying bills. We had to skip some bills per month and put towards our food and gas. The job was helping our cash flow because the credit cards are all max out!! He had to travel 3 hours a day to his work. I felt bad so I kept looking for a new job. He got one and he loved it at first. It is a messed up company. People blame each other. My husband got so stressed becasue the company fire people every week.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 January 2010):
This is about the money, and in particular your husband's job. He has got to get another one. And perhaps look at moving to somewhere cheaper to live as well, that is maybe closer to his work that he doesn't have to travel as much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): Source a local charity that gives financial advice free and this will help you to plan your expenses. They can even negotiate a deal with credit card companies so your repayments will be less and they can freeze the interest to help you. Go and talk to your partners friend. Ask that he starts paying back the money he borrowed, even if its only a few dollars a week just get the money back. Could you train to be a child minder? Over here alot of women that cant work due to being stay at home mums, train to look after other peoples children so they can work, the pay is quite good and it would mean you could be there full time for your child. Help your partner find a better job, even if he has to take a small pay cut it will be better than having him stress over work all the time. Do you have a spare room? You could rent out a room to help with the bills. Take measures at home to cut back on out goings, ie electric, gas ect. You can get thru this but start by getting some financial advice x
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