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writes:Ok so Iv'e been with my girlfriend for two years now and this is the first time it happened. It's nothing major but I thought I would ask anyway because it was so strange.I had made a pavlova cake for her one night (an Australian cake with merangue and fruit) which made her almost "orgasm" from how good it was. She then asked me if I remembered to buy a particular item for her while I was out buying ingredients for this cake. I forgot and didn't mean to. She got really upset and started telling me off saying I'm always forgetful then started punching me in the shoulder, it didn't hurt because she's very petite and kept talking about why did I forget and I'm always forgetting things. I started getting angry and telling her I was only human and people sometimes forget things and that it was no big deal.After complaining for a few more minutes literally out of no where she started kissing me. I was so suprised I didn't even ask why she kissed me or how she wen't from being so angry to being so "loving" if thats the right word to use. She's not bi polar at least not to my knowledge, can women be that much of an emotional yo yo?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the answers so far. The funny thing is to everyone else, at work with friends e.t.c she shows very little emotion, but when she's with me she plays on her cuteness and petite body and acts like a whiny pouting child sometimes, it's not to get anything out of me it's just how she behaves, then all of a sudden she's chilled and easy going. I guess the episode she had was her extreme side coming out. Or her period.
As for the hitting, she knows I hate it and Iv'e told her off about it but because she knows she is small and has a "girlish" body she acts all girly and says it's because she knows it doesn't hurt and that I think she's "cute", even though I'm telling her off about it, and she's 28, not some stupid young immature girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2013): Both women and men can be that passionate. That's all it seems to have been passion. Going from angry to horny is very easy OP, they're very closely linked in terms of passion, why do you think make up sex is so good?
My fiancée gets very horny when she's angry, I kind of love when she's angry but not at me because generally it means she'll want to throw me down on the bed soon and tear me to pieces to work it out of her system.
Look OP you know what it's like to 'see red' you do lose a lot of your control and inhibitions in that moment. Surely you've gone from very angry to laughing hysterically or to bawling crying at one point or another, they're very profound emotions, that kind of anger unbalances us all and we all have different reactions.
Now OP, hitting is not on. Hitting out of anger no matter how small and weak a person is, is physical abuse. She's not allowed to lash out at you violently when she's angry. If you did that to her people would condemn you viciously as a abusive scumbag, well she doesn't get a free pass because she's a woman OP.
Look OP at best she's very passionate, at worst she's unhinged emotionally and loses control too easily. The difference is passionate people generally are able to channel that in a good way, and are generally able to control it. Unhinged people can snap very easily then immediately switch to something else and it happens all the time with them.
The fact you call this a very weird thing after 2 years means that this was just a moment of extreme emotion, she was probably just in one of those moods maybe even having a horrible menstrual cycle or something. If it was one off then there's no issue. But again OP, physical violence out of anger has no place in any relationship. Ever. I get punched very often on the arm by my fiancée, mostly for making crass jokes in front of others, but it's a playful punch.
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts +, writes (4 February 2013):
 Wow! I've gotten angry at my partner but I've never jumped him straight after! That's not to say her behaviour isn't normal; I just don't do it :PAs for why she got so upset, maybe there is something else bothering her. Did you forget something else that might have been really important to her? If you did, she probably told herself "That's OK he forgot this time. He won't forget next time!" And then when you next forgot something (even though it's a small thing) she probably thought "He can't even remember this small thing, he doesn't care". Just speculating, but ask her if there's something else on her mind?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2013): Yes, they can. A certain time of the month, approximately one week before their period some women go nuts, actually most women.I, for example, become very sensitive and cry a lot. I feel uncomfortable physically as I usually gain 3-4 lb at this time by eating non stop. I feel bloated, and my breasts are tender. I m moody, can yell at my husband for no reason, and get offended easily.Welcome to PMS world:).as soon when my period starts everything is back to normal and I become sweet and calm me. My husband knows that and when I become like that, he usually asks me if its PMS again. That question reminds me, o, that's right, its that time, and I try to control myself.It's basically impossible, as hormones taking over.When my husband is cranky during this time, I remind him to behave, because I cant really control my behavior, and him being cranky doesn't help at all.Your girlfriend displays change of mood, that's very typical for PMS. Just hang in there, it will go away in 25 years:)
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