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writes: I have a small dick (3.5"). I am quite capable of attracting girls and getting them to take their clothes off. But when they see my penis they run a mile. Because of this I am a virgin at 20 yrs old. This is driving me crazy. I am at university and I should be rampant. Instead I am left out and feeling inadequate. Is my only hope of losing my virginity by having sex with a prostitute? I hope not, but seriously at least five girls have seen or felt the size of my penis and from that moment onwards become completly turned off. Help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): Do you mean 3.5 inches erect? or not erect. What it is when you have an erection is what counts. Sometimes mine is only 2 inches or less when I'm not erected. But it's 5 inches or more when I have an erection. So isn't that what counts. I know some medication will cause it to be small cause mine was before when I was taking medicine. Try foreplay or deep kissing or french kissing or petting a lot that will probably help. You could Offer the girl cunnligus she will like that. Or Try doggy style that really gets some men aroused alot and get bigger really. Also I think there is one way you could lose your virginity try a less attracted girl she probably wouldn't care she would be lucky to have you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): Well, I guess I should be the last person commenting on this, but couldn't help putting in my 2 cents. Nice girl, naughty girl, who cares! Hell, I'd sleep with you myself if I wasn't married (and that other guy with the small package)to get it over with for you! You are causing yourself too much grief. I for one, love sex, and have been quite promiscuous over the years, with both men(small and large and everything in between), as well as women (that's right, I can get off with someone who doesn't even have a penis, let alone a small one!), and I have to tell you, if I have been sexually satisfied, it has always come from the "passion, excitement, and attraction" with the other person/people. In other words, as some of the others have suggested- put more emphasis on foreplay and get her excited to be with you. If you are just grabbing for the breasts and crotch-forget it- I don't care if you are hung like a porn star- she will tell all of her friends you suck in bed!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2007): Don't worry about being a virgin at 20. I'm 23 turning 24 soon, at a university, and I'm still a virgin and proud of it. If your concerned about your size, it will deeply affect your self esteem, which in turn will affect the relationships you will have with women, since women like a confident guy. Your obviously going for the wrong type of girls. Find yourself a respectable girl (not a prostitute) that will love you for you and not your size.
If she is worried about your size, she's not the type of girl that you want to be with because she will try and find other things about you she may not like, while completely forgetting the person inside of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): I read the article you posted. I am pretty much in the same boat as you. I'm 20 years old, in college and have still not had sex. I feel pathetic and inferior to other guys who have gotten laid. I think this is really starting to hurt my self-esteem and hope i can have sex as soon as humanly possible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2007): Oh my gosh! It amazes me how much guys pay attention to the size of their penis. For one thing don't take advice from a guy looking in at the situation by telling you to get a good degree followed by a gold digger! Also I agree with the majority of the ladies, try having a relationship with a girl. If you are a virgin wouldn't you want to think of losing it as special? I'm not saying you have to be madly in love, but at least had an attachment. I think you are looking for the wrong kind of girls for the wrong kind of reasons. Why shouldn't you think of yourself highly and get a nice girl than a drunk girls gone wild girl??? About your penis.... most guys think of themselves as Sex Machines and MOST HAVE NO CLUE what they are doing with their 6,7,8 inch dicks. It's not the size it's how you work it. Girls love FOREPLAY! after that, they could care less what you have to offer, size wise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2007): I am a virgin at 20, and yes sometimes I feel like you do..except for the whole I am female thing but still I think what if I never meet someone who likes me and wants to be with me? will I still have a fulfilling life? I used to think long and hard about this and then one day I just realized 'it doesn't matter..Live your life for you, and only you and if someone special comes into it then all the best but if not you are still a wonderful person'...and if it makes you feel any better I am a complete virgin...never hugged a guy, kissed a guy, held hands or even gone on a date so there are people worse off then you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2007): Many readers are that have responded are women. Women dont know what they or other want. I was a virgin at 21, and still am at 27. And not by choice. Reason : Penis Size. This is beucase the size also affects your personality. Combination of that and your actual size, your only solution is get a good paying job out of university and hope some gold-digger finds you. Good Luck with that.
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reader, jolene +, writes (10 January 2006):
 i cant say ive ever noticed size! it really dosent matter! most of a womens nerve endings are in her clitirous anyway and thats on the outside! and if a woman loves you or cares about you then they will just be excited to be having sex with you!
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reader, loni +, writes (10 January 2006):
To answer you question truthfully, you are on the petite size, however, if you can master good foreply then your size won't even matter, I have an ex friend who is one of my best sexual memories and it all has to do with the total package of things we did in bed, and for one he had magic fingers....(they were orgasmic)........
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2006): First get them off with your little finger. Then they may not be so size consious. It works well.
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reader, kiwidew69 +, writes (12 December 2005):
Ok first off...being a virgin at 20..isnt that bad...hubby was 18 when he lost it to me...and i only wish I had waited on him.
As far as the "size" that really isn't important.If a girl loved you she wouldn't give a crap.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2005): DO NOT go to a prostitute to lose your virginity. It will only make you bitter. There's no reason a nice girl wouldn't sleep with you; it's just you've been going about it the wrong way. Try getting to know a girl a little before getting naked with her. Size only matters when a girl has absolutely no other reason to care to sleep with you. Give her even a little bit of emotional attachment or interest, and you could be half your size and she'd still be happy to get intimate with you.
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (9 December 2005):
 You must stop attracting silly girls to you and find some REAL women for a change... take Bev's advice, I would agree with her on this one.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (9 December 2005):
 Three-and-a-half-inches is perfectly OK and a woman who loved you wouldn't give a rat's how big it is.
So the problem is not that they're running away from your dick; it's that the girls you're attracting don't care enough about YOU to stick around.
Your attitude that - simply because you're 20 and at uni - you should be out having lashings of sex, "rampant", is probably contributing to your woes, too. Yeah, sure, some girls at uni will undoubtedly share your attitude of no-strings sex just for the hell of it, but most young women would rather feel that you actually... oh, I don't know... CARE a little about them, before they jump into the sack. And those other girls (the ones who would consent to sex as easily as having coffee) can - let's face it - pick and choose.
Rather than focussing so hard on losing your virginity to some girl/any girl, why don't you take a risk and get to know a particular one and establish a relationship? Be friends with women, rather than attempting to be a predator around them. Women and girls have other assets than mere sexual availability, you know! You might even find that you enjoy female company. Get to know a number of women and you'll probably find that at least one of them will find you attractive and desirable.
And as I state often, a woman who cares for you and trusts you, and who feels intimate enough to want to have sex with you, won't give two hoots about the size of your willie.
If it's only about losing your virginity, though, well, prostitutes don't care about the equipment as long as you pay for the service. Personally, I think that approach is a little bit cold and mechanical, though. Wouldn't you rather remember your first sex as something that made you happy and satisfied, rather than something you paid for?
A little attitude adjustment, a little time and a little care. That's all I'm suggesting.
Good luck... and don't worry!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2005): Try building a relationship with a girl before you take each other's clothes off. If a girl has real feelings for you, she might feel slightly surprised to discover your smaller size, but it won't keep her from wanting to be with you. The importance of size is purely psychological, and when you're acting on more than pure hormones, the balance of what's important changes.Whatever you do, don't lose your virginity to a prostitute. Being a virgin at 20 is nothing to be ashamed of (I'm a grad student and happen to know some very good looking, smart, fun guys who are still virgins at 24 and 25), and as long as you're true to yourself this shouldn't be a big hangup. But if you do something drastic, like finding a prostitute, you'll never be able to feel normal about it. It'll become this complex - like you weren't good enough to do it on your own - and it will change your attitude in very subtle ways. There's a good chance you'd end up with a self-fulfilling prophecy. Stop worrying about it so much, and try just finding a girl you like and want to spend time with. Girls love that, anyway. Listen to her for a while before you try to rip her clothes off. Maybe even take her on a few dates. Once she cares about you, I doubt the size thing will be an issue.
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