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writes: i like my boyfriend and he says he likes me 2 but we keep having fights bacause he kisses other girls and if i kissed other boys id be dumped so i dont know what to do about him. i dont know if he really does like me he hurts me a lot Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): hi i ahve to say im in the same situation as you and i dont no what to do i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years we have a son togher he tells me he kisses other girls i hate it i am really considering finishing with him but i love him so much and the big thing is trust here how can i trust him if he kisses other girls you got to ask yourself what else does he do ???????
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (10 December 2005):
Wow, I'm shocked that a guy could really just be that cruel to his gf, someone who he should care for and treat with respect and dignity. Hes not doing ANY of that. You said you like your bf, but then you are having all these horrible feelings due to his wrong and un accepable behaviour of kissing other girls and then the double standards of you not being allowed by him to kiss other guys.
I am just going to come out and say it straight out, because I think there are no doubts in my mind that this guy is not worthy of you! He has no respect, love, understanding and consideration of your feelings, loyalty or your trust. Those are all important factors in a healthy relationship and if one doesnt have tem and it cant be fixed, its time to get out of there!
I have to wonder, what is making you consider to perhaps say as you said you like him but this is hurting you alot what hes doing and your not sure if you should leave him or not. I guess my question to you is, why would you stay? What is keeping you there with him? Its surely not the love and respect he gives you, or the understanding, or loyalty as he gives you none of it. So what does he give you? what are the positives in this relationship?
Is it that maybe you just like the idea of having a bf? Do you feel the need to have a boy near your side to feel that your life is worth while or something like that? or maybe its because it seesm like everyone in the world hasa bf, if so, honestly darl, thats not the way to live. Not only will you end up just getting even more hurt and down due to the fact that someone who should love you is being in appropiate and you might somehow come to terms with it and accept it (and you shouldnt by no means!) yet you could also very well stop yourself from meeting someone who is much more suited to you, someone who would treat you well and who you can love back!
Be confident that you CAN be by yourself and be happy. This guy is hurting you and you dont deserve it. From just reading what you said, you seem like a very caring and kind person who should have better. Don't put up with it.
I wouldn't even bother takling about it with him again as it sounds liek you have already raised the issue and he made no changes, which just shows me that hes taking you for granted and is taking advantage of you. Stop this relationship now before you hurt even more, if you stay in it, guarentee you will be emotioanly hurt in the long run!
good luck and I hope all goes well for you and trust me, you will survive wiht this breakup!
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