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writes:There seems to be a lot of information around about how to avoid predators and stuff on the Internet, but not much on how to avoided being called one. There's this teen I've been chatting on-line with for a while, who is talking about coming to see me. For a start, I don't think she *is* 18, I think she's really 17. It seems the age of consent in this country is 16, so I don't think I have to worry about not being able to take consent, or luring (especially since all the motivation for the visit seems to be coming from her). I think I can handle the moral and emotional issues, but are there other precautions I should be taking to avoid trouble?I *will* insist on her mother knowing where she is, and I *will* insist on seeing some ID at the earliest opportunity. (And, yes, I'm also aware of the drinking age)
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reader, RaelImperialAerosolKid +, writes (24 June 2010):
RaelImperialAerosolKid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's right: Canadian up here, American down there. How does that raise the stakes? How are the measures we've outlined so far not sufficient?
If you are concerned about what it takes for a youth to cross a border, my family is actually looking into that for a different matter. My mother wants to take my niece and nephew to the Caribbean next year. Their mother's a difficult person, so we're interested in what permission is necessary. What it seems like so far is that the 16-year-old won't need any permission from the parents, because of his age.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (24 June 2010):
 She's crossing an international border to come visit you? You had better make absolutely sure she is 18.
Perhaps a quick background check would be a good idea for you to conduct on her. It might cost money, but what's some cash if it keeps you out of prison?
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reader, RaelImperialAerosolKid +, writes (23 June 2010):
RaelImperialAerosolKid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, as far as IDs go, from the last teen movie I saw (Superbad) they're a cinch to spot (if you are smarter than a convenience store clerk). But IDs aside, passports are a damn lot harder to fake, and she's going to need one to get up here.
A webcam wouldn't help me in speaking to her father--a séance would--but I probably should try a cam interview with her and her mother. Thanks.
And as for that 419-ish scam, that's an excellent point, but I've dealt with scammers far less patient that she's shown herself to be. In any case, if she does try to pull a sting at the last minute, I'll be ready.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 June 2010):
If she's 14, she's not going to have ID. Oh wait, yes she could. I remember giving my drivers' license to my sister who is 6 years younger than I am for some reason when I was around 19. I had a spare one after a lost purse incident required that I get a new one. I didn't have as much common sense back then. Now, I realize I was giving her way too much access to adult stuff.
I think a webcam conversation between you and her and her mother and father, all together, would be the safest course of action. Then you KNOW she's who she says she is and they'll know you.
Something to consider: she's a scammer who's going to separate you from some money. So she'll tell you that she can't buy a ticket or get a hotel room or something like that and she just needs to have your credit card number or some money wired to her before things work out well.
There's some fascinating stuff at http://www.419eater.com/ You might have a look.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 June 2010):
Seems to me that you're walking into a mess here. I'm not sure this is too good an idea. One slip up and you'll be on the register. ID's can be faked, and her mother can be lied to. This doesn't seem too good an idea to me.
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