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writes:im 21 years old and currently a freshman in college and the mother of a 6 year old daughter.i just fount out that im 10 weeks pregnant by my boyfriend of 8 months. were very much in love and planned on moving in together in 7 months.i told him i was pregnant and he wants me to abort it. he feeld its the best decision, because we cant afford a kid,he feels if we have the kid we'll both have to drop out of school and well live in poverty.and our dreams will go out the door.deep down i want this baby, me having had prior abortions i promised i would never put my body threw that again.im just scared that maybe we will drop out of school and be on welfare and never be able to give my kids the life they deserve.he mentioned adoption too, but i could never do that.on an average we make about 2000 a monthim worried about the financial aspects of it.can we afford a another kid?i live with my dad now but he says if i keep the baby i have to leave.i have no other family just my dad.he wants me to abort it.his family is leaving to another state so they wont be around either.i dont know what to do.should i keep my baby or abort it?
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reader, becca emma louise  +, writes (25 June 2010):
you've been through a lot if you have already had abortions before but if you have done it once then what makes this different? then again you have done an amazing thing at bringing your daughter into the world :) i know my experiences arent going to influence your decision but i lost my baby back in october at only nine weeks and although i was no way near ready and i would have had to given up my dreams of going to university and my future i could have made it work and i would do anything to have my baby back again, and as im too young to adopt i just have to deal with the loss so if it was me i would say go for it!!! :) xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): if you decide to adopt - there are always open adoptions where you could have some contact/info on your child. I know no decision can be easy to make at this time and that you would really like to keep this child but if you cannot afford kid and abortion is out of the question then i would seriously look into adoption. It is not an easy choice at all but it could be the best all round, plus looking and talking to them would not hurt .... if you decide not to go down that route then at least you know you looked at it as an option. Also, look at any goverment programmes which may help you like Ampersand states. Also, regardless of what you decide ... i would also look into other methods of forms of birth control as you have mentioned a number of previous abortions and already a mother to a six year old. The coil is supposed to be really good ... just mentioning it so you don't have to go through any more of these difficult times cos its unfair on you.
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reader, Waiting for an angel +, writes (24 June 2010):
Im not trying to be mean or anything but why are you such an irresponsible person? Im sure you know about protection. Im a mother to be in 2 wks , w/ a previous miscarriage, how can you think of aborting again?? I think you're old enough to take responsability of your actions, you cant go down life getting an abortion everytime you fall pregnant for not using protection... Again this is my opinion, and you aborting because your boyfriend wants to is very stupid what guarantee do you have that he'll be there for you supporting you etc a day from now ? Dont make stupid decisions that you'll later regret.
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