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writes:Hi, sisters..We married last year after six month dating. He is a wonderful man who is hard worker and caring his family. But one thing is bothering me very much is he's sexual behavior. He having pantyhose addiction and want sex all the time. Many times I found him played himself when I am not home. We almost have sex every night but seen like that still can't make him happy. I did talk to him about I am not feel comfortable about that. He said he will cut it off, but I knew he still do it when he is check those adult website. I don't know what I can do. Please give me some suggestions. A depressing woman Reply to this Question
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reader, insrchof +, writes (24 June 2010):
 You cannot and will not be able to stop it. If you are satisfied in the marriage, then it shouldn't be a problem. I personally have a very high sex drive. I want sex all the time in some form or another. When I don't, I resort to porn and masturbate. My wife doesn't mind, because she would rather see me happy and our marriage secure, then for me to have an affair. She found that by encouraging it or even participating in it, that she lost her insecurities with it. If you hold it over him, you risk losing your marriage over an issue that is within hand, pun intended....
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 June 2010):
 Hey! We're aunts here!
I agree with the Reader Anonymous and a bit with the Wise Woman of the Forest. You want him to stop looking at porn; the rest is fine with you. Try to keep what you have and see what you can do about the rest.
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reader, Wise Woman of the Forest  +, writes (23 June 2010):
 A depressing woman? :/
Let's face it, most men, married or not, jerk off to porn. But by the sounds of it, you have picked up one with extra testosterone. I would suggest, not to sound tacky, but "kinky" scenarios that will arouse him more and get him thinking about you more often. You need to make him see that you're number one woman in his life, and it all starts with a little self confidence. Perhaps, "sexy" underwear or even role play if you feel comfortable.
I wouldn't suggest making a sex tape, unless you're certain it can't get onto the internet... but this could be a way to stop him looking at other ladies, as if he feels the urge, he can simply watch that back.
All I can recommend is that you become his fantasy, instead of these plastic women on the internet. (:
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reader, Wise Woman of the Forest +, writes (23 June 2010):
A depressing woman? :/
Let's face it, most men, married or not, jerk off to porn. But by the sounds of it, you have picked up one with extra testosterone. I would suggest, not to sound tacky, but "kinky" scenarios that will arouse him more and get him thinking about you more often. You need to make him see that you're number one woman in his life, and it all starts with a little self confidence. Perhaps, "sexy" underwear or even role play if you feel comfortable.
I wouldn't suggest making a sex tape, unless you're certain it can't get onto the internet... but this could be a way to stop him looking at other ladies, as if he feels the urge, he can simply watch that back.
All I can recommend is that you become his fantasy, instead of these plastic women on the internet. (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): Don't make it an issue. He clearly wants you, and enjoys sex with you. Some men really need a lot of sex -- it's a physical release, a stress reducer. He'll be happier, and you'll be happier. Really, don't make this an issue, and don't make him feel ashamed about it. Sex is different for men, in many, but so simple, ways. If you make him feel ashamed about it, it will affect you marriage negatively. I'm sure he'd be happy if you gave him a helping hand, or thought it was sexy. It's ten minutes of fun...
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