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writes:I'm starting a new job, my first job but the problem is that my ex also works there so now my boyfriend is very upset with me.
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (3 March 2009):
 Why don't you ask your boyfriend what it is he is upset or concerned about - is he worried you will flirt, cheat?? What? Explain to him that you care for him now - not your ex - and that you want him to feel secure in that. Tell him why you want to take the job - why is it important to you? Then ask him what you could do to make him feel 'better' about the situation - ie: minimise the contact you have with your ex etc, if he comes up with some reasonable things and you agree to do them - he may feel a bit more secure about it all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): My boyfriend just hired his ex, so I feel for your situation. Though I'm an extremely jealous person, at first I didn't think I could handle it, but it gets better as time goes on. Just be careful that you and your ex keep it as a professional/friend level, I find it very easy to tell when someone you love is trailing off and your boyfriend might feel the same worry, comfort your boyfriend, let him know how much you love him, and for a while you might have to be there just a little more for him.
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (3 March 2009):
 He's probably just really really jealous. He will get over it.
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