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writes: I am still not completely over my ex. I know it will take time but when will that be? I can't wait for the day that he becomes a name I would just remember and the feelings like it was a part of a dream I had before.Right now, I can say I am done with crying. I also accept now that what we have is past and will remain the past. I am not bitter anymore that we no longer communicate. I can control myself of not contacting him. It's been a week now since I visited his facebook page and I am not that interested to look at it anymore. I feel I am done with that, too.But still, I think of him especially before I sleep. When I wake up, I remember him again. I still wonder sometimes if he still really does love me or what he said the last time were lies or truth.My question is, I know it's just a matter of time to get there. But which stage am I now? We have been apart for 3 months now and almost got back together last week. But I realized I should keep moving on and not look back. So the case is closed.Can anyone tell me their different stages in moving on from a break up and how long did it take them to forget? This is my most serious relationship ever and although my age says I should be old enough for this but honestly, I am naive.LOL I sure sound like I am in a computer game or something but I believe there are stages to this..
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): i know how you feel i have been there. I broke up with my ex 2 years ago and still think about him everyday. Going back is not an option as he has hurt me a lot. I think its good you realise you dont want to be with him. Next stage is moving on with your life, find new friends get a new hobby just anything to help you concentrate on something besides him. It will be hard and you will miss him loads but the sooner you move on the easier it will be for the next great guy to come along.
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reader, Luaris  +, writes (22 July 2009):
 well you’ve made progress apparently from what you said, so I guess you just need to more time to accomplish the things that havent came yet. Maybe since you said you almost got back together last week you still talk to him? If you do asking him about if he really did love you and getting an answer will probably help too.
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reader, shna  +, writes (21 July 2009):
 youll forget him when youve found sumbody that deserves you !!! i no its hard . . its love i no its a bad thing to say but . . . . why dont you get bk with him ?? i no youve been through the pain and everything but hen me and my boyfriend broke up id wake up everymorning for a week and my eyes would be swollen from crying and i still took him back . . we ave our up nd dwns but i love him to bits im crazy about him iv never regreted taking him back no matter how much hes hurt me in the past hes my first love an id rather go through the pain every week if i got to spend one more night with him . . . take a chance . . the pain is worth it in the end . . sorry if thats the wrong advice you wanted . . but . . you never no wat cud happen ??
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reader, graciiee  +, writes (21 July 2009):
Haha,, no i totally understand what you mean about the whole stages thing.
Um, i'd say that you're nearly over him. and okay it's gonna hurt still, but you're nearly past that. If you don't want to be back with him, tell yourself that that until you no longer have to think about him. I think it's mainly about self control in this situation. Good luck,, hope i've helped :)
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