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writes:Hi Guys,Just wanted some advice really. My boyfriend went on a stag do last night and rang me after to say that during the night he waited outside the strip club with the Bride's brother who is a Christian and didn't want to go inHe wasnt supposed to tell anyone but six of the lads who have partners got private dances, one in particular had three!I'm now considering not going to the wedding, as these men will be there with their partners who have no idea what they've done. If it was reversed and my boyfriend had one I would want to know but my boyfriend thinks I shouldn't say anything as its not my businessWhat do you think I should do? If it were you would you want to know or should I just ignore it and play along like I don't know anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2010): They should be honest with their partners, you cant have a relationship based on lies. So go to the Wedding and if the subject crops up mention it.
You are not meddling, its up to the men involved to act like men and be honest with their girlfriends or partners, if they have not then its their stupid fault if they get into trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2010): Far worse thing have happened at these things so I should worry, especially as there was no cheating. People have done far worse. I had the pressure of keeping it a secret that my mate grabbed a strippers penis and she's married. I'd go and have a good time.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (21 March 2010):
 It is just your opinion that it is wrong for these guys to get the private dances -I know if my boyfriend had a lap dance I couldnt really care less, it is just a daft thing that guys do on stag nights when they have had a few to drink and the girl is just some cheap dancer anyway, so it really does not bother me. So while you think you would be annoyed with it, the other girls might not be bothered, or they might be upset but you just dont know either way.
I dont think you should say anything, it is not your place to be meddling in other people's relationships. How do you know that these guys have not told their partner's anyway? For all you know they might have been honest and told them the next day or something. You should just go to the wedding and have a good time - its not like any of the guys cheated they just had a few dances on a stag night, it really is not a big deal so just forget about it and move on.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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