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writes:I plan to settle down with my girlfriend. We share a long distance relationship for the past 3 years. I am well settled however, my girlfriend is still studying and her studies are expected to get over by April 2010. She says its too early to be thinking about marriage and she will think about it once she finishes with her studies. She also needs a year after her course gets completed to be with her family and get settled. I, on the other hand, am always thinking about her and not be able to concentrate on anything else. I wish to settle down asap after she finishes studying to progress further. Please help me on how to make her understand my situation and convince her to marry me?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 March 2010):
She's not ready and has made it clear. You have to abide your time. If you're still strong in a couple of years, go for it. But right now, she has made it clear that she's not ready at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): it is very hard to convince someone to marry you when she feels she is not ready. you might even think you are trying to convince her not knowing you are pushing her, in the end you will end up loosing her completely. Am sure she loves you but she as well knows whats best for her now. Marriage is a very big commitment and it's a load of work on itself. I married at 20 and i know what am saying. Take it easy, if you too are meant for each other you have nothing to worry about.
All the best!!
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reader, anniibabii +, writes (21 March 2010):
You shouldnt be trying to 'persuade' her to marry you, because a woman should not be forced into a serious commitment like that. Marriage symbolises eternity, and if you really want to stay with her for the rest of your life, then you need to let her think it. If you really loved her, you would respect her decision to wait and suport her with her studies.
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