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writes:hi i really need help. am in a relationship since past 4 years and i have cheated upon my boyfriend and we broke up. after an year he came back to me ans said that he wants to be with me. so we hooked up again. now the problem is he hits me even if i speak to any guy and he treats me well only if he feels like being good to me. my parents wants me to get married asap and he says he wants to marry me after 3 years which is just not acceptable by my parents. but i love him a lot as well and even he does. dont know wat to do? please help me. shall i wait for him or shall i move on and get married to someone else?
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reader, livinituk +, writes (21 March 2010):
i only read the title and immediately screamed leave him!! he hits you, no person should ever be physically, sexually or mentally abused by anyone let alone someone who is suppose to love you.
He came back to you, after you cheated, which means he should have forgiven you and moved on from it otherwise he shouldn't have wanted a relationship with you again but the fact is he clearly is not over it, he hits you for simply speaking to a memeber of the opposite sex...what part of that seems right to you?? because something must, your contemplating marrying this man, surely you can see how wrong that thought is! my advise to you is run and run fast, he is a manipulative coward and tries to scare you in to being his property but remember you are your own person you should be able to talk to whoever you want without fear of being abused because of it.
As for your parents...whos life is it exactly, yours and only yours, yes you respect and love your parents and want to see them happy but shouldn't you want the same for yourself? and shouldn't they want that for you? marry because you want to, when you feel its right, when your in a loving, stable and more importantly non-abusive relationship, there is no time limit for love and happiness. Leave this man and believe in yourself that you deserve to be loved and treated right and you will find your mr right not mr right now because it makes others happy.
You have one life and its too short to worry about pleasing others and being unhappy, think about what you really want out of the life you are living.
Stay strong.
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reader, Tasmanian devil  +, writes (21 March 2010):
 You should move on, simply because of the fact that he's hitting you and not because he wants to wait before he marries you. It doesn't seem like he would make a good husband, hes taking out his insecurities on you with violence. Any man that actually loves you wouldn't hit you. If he truly loved you he would have 4given you and moved on and you could've worked past this but he clearly hasn't.
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