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writes:I have broken up with my girlfriend after bieng together a few years.She wouldnt let me see my friendsShe over reacted at the smallest thingsShe worshiped me too much. She had loads of insecurities and pushed them onto meDid I do the right thing? Reply to this Question
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reader, spinnaker  +, writes (10 June 2011):
 You just gotta get over the dependency she had in your relationship. You will over time when you start hanging out with your friends again and are able to have a chance to invest in #1. Then you will come to peace with your decision.
It regardless of if it was a good or a bad decision - you made a decision, and a difficult one. Most people far older than you hem-haw for years and waste considerable amounts of time living in a bad situation because they do not have the courage to stand up for themselves.
keep us updated with how you are doing ok?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi,
To Idoneitagain
Thanks your answer was helpful, We had a break up in january where she wouldnt budge on the things i mentioned. this was the 2nd and final time i put up with it.
Spinmaker,
Yes she didnt understand it. very childish for a person in early twenties, made me loose contact with my friends and miss out on a normal social life. Regret it now.
DanceInthedark,
Ive lost contact with all of my friends so I just type on here for the sympathy and the reassurance I need. Nobody else is gonna give it to me now. But thanks anyway
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (10 June 2011):
Breaking up with her is one way to let her know that you aren't prepared to put up with all of those things, and that you don't like the relationship running the way that it is. Another way is to stay in the relationship and tell her all of the things that you don't find acceptable, and then try to come to an arrangement that works for both of you, so that you can have the relationship that you actually want with her. Sometimes that works and sometimes it doesn't. If either you or her aren't prepared to work at it though, you probably need to break up, but if there is enough love between the two of you and the relationship is otherwise a good one, I would probably recommend you try work at it. You will know if your heart is still in it or not.
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (10 June 2011):
sure sounds like you found 5 things that really was a problem in your relationship. The question really is how much of that behavior are you willing to put up with?
Remember that you need to have time with other people in your life and not just a clingy girlfriend. If anyone restricts you from your friends or family or anything else that is meaningful and constructive to who you are - that person is not worth being around until they grow up and understand that the world is not all about them.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (10 June 2011):
 Sounds like it.
Why do you feel like you need to justify it though?
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