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writes:Her is the story long and true and I need help. I am 29 years old. My husband and I are currently seperated and have been since June. My husband and I had been together for 13 years. Married for 8 years. Well we had a very rouch relationship with lots of up and downs. I decided that I had enough and we split up. Well I started seeing an ex that is much much older than me. 30 plus years older than me. I very much enjoy being with the man I am with. He treats me great and we have a lot of fun together. The problem is that as time keeps going by I am realizing I am really missing my husband more and more every day. I feel guilty because I am with a man that I do really care about and can actually say that I love him but at the same time I miss my husband terribly. All the little things he would do. His face his smile everything. My husband and I still have a good relationship and talk every day. The man I am now seeing has told me he has let his guard down completely and is totally in love with me and is going to hold nothing back. I don't know what to do. I am really confused about everything and do not want to hurt the man I am now seeing but I want to also be with my husband and the same time. That is very wrong. I can not be with two different men at the same time because I mentally and emotionally could not be intimate with two different people at the same time. Can anyone help me with this terrible situation?
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reader, manaja  +, writes (27 November 2009):
I think you should tell your boyfriend that you think he's a great bloke, but its way too soon for you to be in a relationship, let him down gently that way.
On a footnote , the guys a lot older than you , for sure he 's going to tell you he's "well "into you and "holding nothing back ", you have to be hard sometimes, yeah he's going to hurt, but your feelings are more important , right ? or you going to live your life for someone else ? tell him as soon as you can.
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