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writes:17 never been kissed all my friends been kissed,lost there v had there first proper experiences etc and there happy everyone I know is but I'm not and I have not had anyone ever? closest thing I've ever had to a girl is online twice and I just got played messed around and hurt.. I try to be a nice person but I just get it chucked back in my face over the years I've become more down about it and more lonely.here I am today typing this at half 4 in the morning and feeling as if I'm not worthy of it any of it I feel like an ugly waste of time all girls have shown me is that theres always another guy better because I always seem to get rejected because theres other guys they preffer and I'm stuck on the outsideI feel as if I'll die aloner I dont evan know any girls..I cant evan imagine a girl liking megets my hopes up and gets me down knowing it wont happenI evan get upset when people talk about being kissed I cant evan watch people on tv kiss on soaps because it hurts all I see at the moment is me being this stupid old guy whos never had someoneand before you answer I know there's more to life then girls.. what I'm asking is.. how can I be happier and how can I find someone because I'm in real depression over it and how do I feel worthy of having someone? cos I dont feel worth itany answers appreciated thanks..
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone appreciate it alot.. I cant see things changing I'm afraid:\ cant imagine someone wanting me I dont evan know where to meet a girl.. where do they normally hang out? lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): When you have cultivated enough confidence, girls will subtly approach you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): Ever met a girl/woman who wasn't physically attractive, yet she had such high confidence that she seemed like a cool person to hang with at least once?
Remember the American Idol contestents with huge confidence who obviously couldn't sing?
Confidence doesn't depend on anything real.
Confidence is the aphrodisiac you want to cultivate.
It is created in your mind first, then it appears in your body language, voice, and eyes (everything's relaxed). Try doing a ton of affirmations. Look into your eyes in a mirror and say heaps of them to yourself every single day, forever. When you say them, angle your head in various ways so that you are posing. Check out photos of popular celebrities posing, like George Clooney.
You don't need to believe in the affirmations for them to work, but you need disclipline and patience.
Don't worry about being too nice. You don't need to be nicer than the girl :)
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reader, DiamondGirlx +, writes (27 November 2009):
 HI
Now i know how it feels when all ur friends have had the 'experience' you feel like the odd one out. But ur not! Its just that its not ur time yet, doesnt mean ur never gona get laid or kiss a girl.
Heck my mates 20 and he has just lost his virginity, he felt pretty much like u do now, down in the dumps but then he realised he was glad that he waited because he shared it with someone special and he cared about whereas when ur younger and u lose ur virginity u wish u waited abit longer until someone worth it came along.
Dont feel like a ugly waste of time!!! and i sort of have to admit girls to tend to go for complete di*kheads and then they wish that they found the nice guy which u seem to be, so just be urself, be cool, confident, f*ck any1 else who had different to say, wait, and url find sum1 and also if you dont know any girls then get to know them if ur in school or college or sumfink then talk to them its only word there gona say bk crnt hurt!
Hey Best of Luck dude url find ur girl 1 day :) D.Gx
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reader, 7th Seeker  +, writes (27 November 2009):
 Hey mate, I know exactly how you feel...I used to be really depressed/p*ssed off about this when I was your age (Im in my 20s now). I'd see people with their partners and it always rubbed it in that I had no one. I'd even resent my best mates when they were always running around with their girlfriends, while I was the single one, feeling like a dick the whole time.And like you, I thought that I must not be good enough for any girl to have me, since they never liked me more than just a friend. You start thinking there's something wrong with you. That turns to depression or hate, but each one is toxic.It gets to the point where you have to say 'f*ck this' and stop feeling bad. Which is easier said than done, for sure.You don't need someone else to make you happy. I know that's hard to believe, because it took me a while to come to terms with this as well. And there isn't something wrong with you, its just that we live in a world where being single is seen like a disease to be cured immediately, and everyone else makes you feel like a freak - which is bullsh*t. You just gotta keep doing your thing man, keep your chin up and do whatever makes you happy til the right girl comes along. That sounds like a pipe dream when you can't imagine any girl liking you, I know, but its true.Let's be honest, there are some sh*tty, rotten guys out there, and even they manage to get decent girls. I'm not talking about looks, I mean their content of character is sh*t. You see beautiful, awesome girls going out with complete twats and its like 'what the hell?". You sound like a nice guy, mate. Nice guys don't always have to finish last, you've just gotta play your cards right.A big part of it might be fear of asking girls out and being rejected. That was my biggest problem: major fear of getting shot down and looking like a f*cking idiot. But if you never ask, you'll never know if she likes you. It's simple maths - you'll always miss the shots you never take.And even if you ask 100 girls out, and 99 say no, it's worth it when that one girl says yes. It's all about taking a risk, making a leap of faith.Just learn to be happy by yourself, do your thing, and occasionally ask some girls out. If they no, who gives a sh*t, just keep going til you get a yes.Hope it helps mate, I've been where you are now, and it gets better, trust me.
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