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writes:hellosome times when i have argemant with my partner she refuses to talk to me even i try to contact her all the time,but no answer and that makes me very angry so is tere is any way to control such feelings.thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, Farris  +, writes (1 April 2007):
 Hmm... Mixed advice being given on this.
Please just try to recognise that different people act differently in arguments.
Try to explain to her how this issue makes you feel, and I'm pretty certain she'll explain why she does it. Then maybe you can come to a compromise about it... Such as agreeing to an hour or so to calm down, and then talk things through properly. This way, she still gets her space, and you feel more comfortable with the more controlled situation.
Good luck, & best wishes.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (1 April 2007):
 It might be that your girlfriend prefers to discuss these things calmly after any anger she might have has subsided.
When I disagree with someone on a serious matter I sometimes tell them that I would like to calm down before discussing the issue any further.
Personally I think it's good tactics, it keeps the argument to the point and it prevents me from using verbal attacks on their personality or saying things that I didn't mean and will regret later. Plus, it's easier to come to an agreement when there are no heated feelings in the argument.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2007): your girlfriend needs to grow up,she is acting very childish,maybe shes unaware that such behaviour can be very damaging to a couples relationship,no consideration of how your feeling which is very selfish of her.get her to listen before you start feeling resentment towards her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2007):
I know it is difficult for you, because you want to talk and just make up. But people are different, maybe she wants to be quiet and just think things through.
Maybe it's better this way,because it would prevent her from saying something to you that's hurtful or that she does not mean.
Just appreciate that you don't have the quarreling type of girl. I do know how you feel, though, my husband does this to me. Just do some meditation if you do meditate or sit by the beach or something and just take it easy. Hope that this helps. Good Luck
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