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writes: ok me and my girlfriend have been going out for 13 months and we have been through alot but we are still together. i keep having these suspiscions that she might be cheating on me. there are times where i can really trust her..then there are other times where i dont know if i can trust her. she doesnt seem to want to talk to me as much anymore. she tells me that she really wants to be with me and that she really wants us to work out. i really love her..shes everything to me and i dont want us to argue anymore. i just want to approach this the best that i can without getting her mad or upset...can any of you please please tell me how i can talk to her about this without getting her annoyed or upset? i need some sure signs that she may be cheating on me..please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006): man.... I feel the same way!!! I'm in a LDR and I think sometimes she will replace me with someone she can actually "be" with. She says we are forever.... but she does some suspicious things??? I just try and hold it in.... I learned if I tell her my thoughts she gets real defensive... and I end up apologizing to her for nothing???
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reader, Evangeline  +, writes (22 October 2006):
 She sounds like she does really want to be with you and wants you to work out so you should trust her.
The fact that shes acting strangely at the moment - perhaps a bit distant and not so affectionate is probably nothing to do with you or the relationship. She maybe a bit down at the moment maybe with work/school/family/committements as such and it is easy in a relationship to take it out on the other person (believe me - we've all done it!). This maybe why you feel like your not 'top of her list' at the moment because shes distracted by other things. which might explain why you suspect shes cheating - Im pretty sure if she says she wants to be with you that shes not cheating! Whatever it is, its important not to pressure her into telling you, (its this that seems to annoy her moreso)let her know that your there for her by showing you care about her etc - dont jump in there saying 'tell me tell me!' In her own time she'll realise what a caring person you are and how lucky she is!
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