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writes: Hi everyone and I'm hoping I can get an advice...I have a sexual problem, I think I can describe it like that, or else please help.Well, I'm a guy,20. and I have my girlfriend that we both have a very active sex life, but there are two things I really find it hard to deal with...1) the foreplay I get, she can go on for hours and we both doing it all except intercourse, but I think it's way too long, and honestly I get a bit bored sometimes, I can't tell her because i'm scared she will think I don't enjoy it, but I do. Is just too long. my question is , How far does foreplay can go ?and 2) Yet when we have intercourse, I think that I might not give her pleasure, please may females advice me here... I seem to cum within 10 or 15 min , and that's too soon, thereafter I'm left with a "still going" but is not the same, because I'm thinking on how can I pleasure her at my best, my question here is ,How can I pleasure her with intercourse ? I know here hot spots to turn her on but as a female, may you advice me.am I reaction wrong to this situations ? My relationship is great, I love her so so much.sex isn't the everything for us, just our love is.please help.
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (6 July 2005):
Foreplay is a wonderful and important way of entering into sexual intimacy with another person.If you are finding foreplay boring...I would suggest taking a break for a few weeks.No sex.None at all.Just dating, kissing & hugging...no sexual contact.Go to the movies, out for dinner, dancing, a long walk on the beach when the sun sets...buy her a long stem red rose.Buy a humorous Hallmark card...laugh together !Get re-aquainted with good old fashioned ROMANCE.Did you know that long passionate kisses will make a woman wet?As you said in your story..."Sex is not everything."After a few weeks...she will be CRAVING for you to touch her and play with her delicious body parts.There are also some great books at your local book store.A fantastic movie to rent is "Bliss" ...instructs couples how to excite each other and teaches the man how to hold onto his orgasm...control himself until SHE is ready !
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2005): HiyaYou don't need to tell your girlfriend direct. To make the foreplay more interesting when she is performing on you, say 'I love it when you do that' or 'can you do that I love watching it when you do that' such as kissing and licking rather than just sucking as that can become a little tedious. Maybe if you watched a blue movie to spice things up and got some ideas from. When it comes to you performing oral sex on her, try some toys such as a small vibrator on her clitorus at the same time.As for the intercourse - have a bit of intercourse and go back to the oral and swap positions and if you feel she isnt being satisfied try a position where you can use the vibrator a little and timulate her clitorus as many women find it difficult to orgasm when having intercourse. It has nothing to do with the man they are with, it is merely impossible in some cases.There are all sorts of ways to satisfy eachother, youjust have to find out and tell eachother when you like something.Good luck and enjoy!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2005): Dear I have a sexual problem, ....I think it is more of an emotional one and you are psyching yourself out. A way around this is one ...try somthing new, a new approach. If you can, cut this long forplay session in half , concentrate on quality not quanty, give her a couple of orgasms and then begin intercourse your 10-15 mins will be enough, and sometimes 10-15 mins is enough for some women when she is in the right emotional and phycial state. So I would suggest to make the first 20-45 mins focused on pleasng her and then go right into sex. I guess it's worth a try. Also if this does not work talk to her about it maybe she feels the same way.Remember quality not quanity.Read up on ways to please a woman you may learn something new that blows her mind.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (5 July 2005):
You say your foreplay goes on for hours, have you considered that your girlfriend may feel that its too long too? Talk about it and ask if shes happy with your sex life.If she is, you need to work out ways for yourself to get more from the foreplay. try new things and ask your girlfriend what she wants. You need to talk to each other to get through this.
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