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writes:This may sound odd but it has been pondering on my mind recently. I would appreciate any answers but from the male gender especially.Being in a long term relationship for several years I have noticed that my partner, or it seems, can be selective where ejaculating.When we first started seeing eachother there was no exit (no withdrawl). When we get into fights or something it was always outside/withdraw.This continued for a year.We were seperated for 5 months now, recently seeing eachother again and now it's back to no withdrawl.My question being am I crazy or does this have to do with closeness and trust, him feeling secure...i just kinda see a pattern and was wondering.Please help me kill the curiosity lol Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (22 July 2007):
 I'm not sure about this one. I think the "evidence" is not conclusive.
The previous poster has a point: maybe he's not doing it for any special reason, and he just wants the variety. Some people do ejaculate outside as part of their lovemaking. But, in this case, the lovemaking itself lends to it. It's not withdrawing for supposed contraception, but a sexual game.
But, also, maybe this indeed is a sign. Specially because it didn't happen before, and it lasted for a year. Let's suppose the lovemaking session does not lend itself to withdrawing, and he does; there's a reason for it.
As to reading too deeply, I have a hunch. You're back with this man after some time, which obviously means you had trouble; and your relationship just restarted. I wonder if you think you need a sign of how well the relationship is going. Maybe you don't want his words, but a discrete sign, something he can' fake, and you think his withdrawing, or, rather, his NOT withdrawing, is a sure sign. I have the feeling that indeed, this is the case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): youre thinking about it far to much; maybe he just likes the variety. do you like to come the same old way every time? likely not, and he probably doesnt either. i doubt hes thinking much of anything at that moment in time other than the sensation, never mind a deep thought like 'shall i come inside her because i feel more secure?'
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