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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I know all about the hymen, where it is and why it bleeds. However my boyfriend and i have started having sex and i have never bled. Yet when he goes to far in i feel like a pressure in my vagina and sometimes it gets to painful and i have to tell him not to go as far in. He says that with his last girlfriend he went all the way in, but he can't do that with me. Is there like a second hymen or something or is that just the "end of the tunnel?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007): haha, I had this exact same problem. as if going through the first barrier wasn't painful enough (we managed after a few tries) my boyfriend and i encountered a second barrier which was equally painful. i thought that was it, the end of the tunnel, or the cervix. however, after another few tries we found that it was another barrier and we finally managed to get all the way through and it doesn't hurt anymore. the first hymen stretched and didn't bleed, the "second hymen" or whatever it was bled a bit. so just try, try, try again. you'll get there. and don't listen to what other people say as to what your body has or doesn't have. everyone is different and some women don't even have hymens at all. it is stupid that there are all these myths floating around to confuse people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): sounds like he is bumping against your cervix which can cause pain; tell him not to go as deep and i find a cushion under the bottom of your back helps the angle a bit
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): There is no 2nd hymen. The reason why you may not of bled when you first had sex was because your hymen was already broken.Many girls' hymens are broken through other ways other then sex, such as inserting a tampon or even through playing some sports. But even if your hymen is broken, sex can still hurt a bit. If you are tense/nervous/anxious/worried/scared etc, it will make it more painful because you arent relaxing. If you are able to relax then it may not hurt as much.When you are new at having sex, it will feel uncomfortable because your body isn't use to having his penis inside of you. However the more you do it and relax, the more yoru body becomes use to it and the pain should lessen. Take your time and your body should become use to it and it won't be as painful. Also a tip, tell your bf to go slow, and to not go 'straight in', meaning not force himself into you to quickly, if he does it slow, it will lessen the pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): Maybe you're having difficulties because your body isnt ready for sex yet. You're young.
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