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writes:I think my girlfriend is cheating. i've been going out with her for just over seven months now. We have only been out on a proper date once, and I only slept with her once. But that's not the main reason i think she's cheating. She was texting another man a few months ago, and they were seen in a night club, kissing. She admitted that, and promised she would not do that again.She thought i wasn't paying attention to her as much. But i always give her all the attention she needs, because i love her to bits. Then i find out she's been texting him again: but she promised she hasn't. But now, when i kiss her, or touch her, she doesn't seem all that bothered. Nor does she pay any attention to me. There is something that doesn't seem right.She has one child, and she does use the child, as an excuse. So i can't really say much to her. please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): You say you have been together 6 months and only gone on one date and had sex once. That seems odd. Maybe you are not in a fully functioning relationship. Is she using you as some sort of comfort blanket but does not want a full relationship. Her general reactions to you do not sound loving so you have to question where this is going. Up your game - either try to be a proper boyfriend with all that entails (tell her this is what you want)or move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): Hey man!
I feel things are definitely off here. Be direct with her and ask her what she is looking for right now in terms of a relationship. Try not to assume she is cheating or seeing another guy and then act out of some emotion against that thought and while doing so, doing something that is out of your character like sleeping with another woman. What if she isnt cheating man? I sense some definite communication issues here and I think you should be the one to take charge here and get to the bottom of whats going on with it. Sit down, have a chit chat, try to stay calm and sort things out. My best your way pal.
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reader, Dataluke +, writes (18 January 2011):
 I'm sorry that she's behaving like this.
9 times out of 10 a person cheats because the relationship they're in doesn't excite them, and that can be because the person who's cheating doesn't make enough effort.
You need to confront her. Tell her that your not stupid and that you know somethings wrong and that things don't feel right.
Ask her if she truly wants to be with you. If she says yes then say there have to be changes and effort made to make it work. If not then walk away, she's not worth your time.
I hope it works out.
All the best, Dataluke
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reader, RayBones  +, writes (18 January 2011):
 Dude, get over it. go out with someone else. Whether or not she is cheating or not isn't even the issue, the issue is you are a back-up plan and she is only keeping you around in case she NEEDS you. It seems like you have smothered her and she has lost respect for you. You can't respect someone that kisses your ass, and no matter how much you do for her she will only see you as beneath her now. Get out of this bad situation!
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