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writes: how can a man reject his child for another women? We were together over 6 years and i fell pregant. Soon as he heard, he did a runner. Three months later he's in a serious relationship with another girl. They are going abroad together. His child was born, but he want's nothing got to do with her. He says his baby daughter will only ruin his new relationship with his new girlfriend. he said we are the past and that's where we should stay.he says he now in college (mature student) and he want's the college life even tho he's trained as a solideris this just a phase i don't want him in and out of her life. or should i just accept this and move on he be 25 in feb and his new gf just turned 20
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): Hey, never mind just give yourself time to let it go and move on. I am also in the very same situation. The father of my baby doesn't even see his baby, or pay a single cent to support his baby. He is now with Miss Right. He even put her on facebook so that I could see. What's left is that I will have to write him off and tell my baby that he left this country a long time ago. I am playing mother and father to my daughter. God is watching and everything will be ok. May God bless you so that you can cope just like I did.
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reader, LostInMyself  +, writes (18 January 2011):
 Sigh.
My father did not want anymore kids when I was born so he did not really want me in his life because I did not fit into his plans. There is a horrible feeling that comes with this kind of "rejection" . If he doesn't want anything to do with her, then fine, dont make her relate to him. Raise her and be her mother and father. I would get a child support order, immediately, eh is still financially obligated until she is 18th, even if he does not want to be involved in her life. If he does not want to be in her life, dont make him. Dont tell your daughter her dad hates her or that he is horrible. This will make her feel awkward. I assure you I adore my mother more than anything for being my mother and father. 3 Be strong, dont beg love and attention from someone who doesnt want to give them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): This has nothing to do with whether he has a new girlfriend or not, it has nothing to do with her. It only has to do with HIM and the fact that he wants to shirk his responsibilities.
so you're saying he was with you UNTIL you got pregnant? Then just because you got pregnant, he left you?
it wouldn't matter if he ever found a new girlfriend or when. Fact is that he doesn't want to take responsibility for the life he helped to create.
is there a way to prove he's the father? can you take him to court to get child support?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): Hey there,
Move on girl! Unfortunately he has made his choice and if he regrets it or not later down the track that is his issue. I he wants nothing to do with his baby daughter then so be it. Its hard but try and be at peace with his choice and then wonderful things will open up for you and your daughter. TRy not to be bitter about it and be the better person. I say ultimately he will regret his choice but that will be his issue. And if you choose to let him back into your and your daughter's life then he is going to have to work hard to establish trust and friendship again. For now - try and move on and enjoy your daughter and the other people who love you in your life, try not to dwell on the past.
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reader, rcn +, writes (18 January 2011):
 You can't force someone to act, or be part of your or her life. I would recommend a child support order be in place. Although he doesn't want anything to do with her, he's still financially responsible.
If he comes around, he'll have to in his own time. I have children, and could never imagine what life would be without any of them. I don't know why he's acting this way. In my view it's just wrong. I'd recommend you just be a good mother. Raise your daughter, and if he comes around later, fine, but if not don't waste your time now trying to figure him out. It really takes to much energy trying to figure "ignorance" out.
Take care.
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reader, Dataluke  +, writes (18 January 2011):
 My own father did this to me very recently. He justified it very well, but in the end he was abandoning me and my sister for a new relationship, no other way around it.
This is never a phase when it comes to men, he will never be back, even for his daughter. I'm so sorry you have to do this on your own, but there are plenty of support groups available that can help you.
I am so sorry that he turned out to be a %@!?$#*.
All the best, Dataluke
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