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writes: hi I am in dire need. I have been going out with this girl now for 1 year and four months. We have never been happier. I feel I have found my soulmate, but over the Christmas period we have been bad. We have recently broke up. It's like I have been stabbed. I love her so much. We argued on the 27th December but broke up 3rd Jan. We keep talking but have stopped for a while. I want to give her time alone to think. She wants to get back, maybe in February but she wants to know how she feels first. I feel like I need her. We were best friends as well as lovers. I just don't know what to do. I feel like dying.Please can you help or give me a speech or some words of wisdom that I can say to her to help things? I am just so scared. I need her even more at this point as my nan recently died. I need a shoulder to cry on. Please help me. I am in dire need and am very scared of what will happen. Thank you.jay
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): Too many people take second best and I think I have found the best. (name) you mean the world to me and during the time you have been gone I have had time to realise what you really mean to me. I have never loved any one the way I love you (name). You make my palms feel sweaty when I see you. You make my heart skip a beat when you touch me. I would do anything to have another chance with you, but we can't if you will not take the risk. Somtimes you have to take a risk to find out if these things will work.how is that??? amber 17 uk xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): hello mate, ive just split up with my fiance and it's a killer but you have to be strong difficult as it is you need to prove to her you can live without her, i know you feel like she needs to know how muchyou care and love her but she does know and it will drive her away in the end giver her space and time and im sure she will come round, she obviously feels she needs you sounds like shes pushing the boundries to see how far you would go if you show confidence (if she does still love you) she will come running back. hope this has been some sort of comfort at least
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reader, pasty  +, writes (18 July 2007):
iam in a six year relationship with a woman at the age of 45 and i am 35. for the first year thing seem to be much better but since then we satrted to live very bad sometimes for days we will not speak with each other, she as move out on serveral occasion within a two months she would ask me to take her back and if i said no she will be grying them i will end up take her back because i love her as well. now after tow years she as move out again. this time when i need her most and she said she dont want to come back i have ask her to take me back the same as i dont to her when she as ask me to do so and she said she is not in love with me anymore i have beg her on serval occasion and she would end up embrassed me so i have back off . deep in my heart i would want to get back with her but she is not talking to me. i need your help and advised.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): Listen...no girl wants a speech that is rehearsed and not your own. It may win her back temporarily but then the truth will come out...spare her the hurt.
If you can not jog you nogging and do some soul searching then perhaps you are not emotionally secure and ready for a commited relationship.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2006): My girlfriend broke up with me what do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2006): I recently lost my fiancee. she said that she will always love me and that she never wanted me out of her life forever. I feel your pain. The one thing that will help is to be strong. if she talks to you talk back but unless she doesnt speak dont speak to her. my ex fiancee told me that she wonders if she is making the biggest mistake by letting me go. it was very hard for me to choke down my own neediness and to tell her that i could not answer that question for her and no one else could. the best thing to do is just let her go. if she truly loves you and wants to be with you she will turn back around. if not then she doesnt love you as much as she says and you should move on. in the mean time like one of the other people said on here. find strength in yourself and strengthen your independence. learn to be happy with yourself. if your trying to find happiness in someone else its only going to put strain on the relationship. Remember though. there are no magic phrases, not perfect words and no rules that will break the barrier. our hearts know us best and if we ignore them nothing will truly be right. give her time. i hope she comes around for you i really do. in the case that she doesnt. its ok there is someone out there that will make you happy and will be happy with you. i know its cliche but if you love someone let them go and if they come back they are yours. i hope what i have said helps you. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2006): Jay you need to calm down and don't ever feel like your gonna die if your not with her that's crazy be in love yes but don't be so independent on someone else for your happiness I know it sucks to brake up but, the only thing you should do is give her time and if she talks about your relationship listen to her understand her and support her no matter what decision she makes but in the mean time get occupied do things to take your mind off of it. If she knows your nana died you should still be able to cry on her shoulder cause she should want to be there for you if she isn't then I wouldn't bother with her Just give it time don't let her play games with you either good luck!!
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reader, StarNews +, writes (7 January 2006):
 If she says she doesn't want to get back until February, this gives you time to prepare your speech. When you do talk, let her be the first to do all the talking, and listen to what she has to say. This will be your clue as to what you will say next.
I would not confess my undying love for her too quickly. She asked for the time apart, so you really have no idea what she will say until it is time to talk. Hopefully, she will contact you when the time comes. Use this time apart to think. Not so much about how much you need her to fulfill your every need, but instead, think about finding strength within yourself, because it is there. Don't feel so lost without her, realize that you can make it on your own and that life goes on. Then, when she does come around and discovers this much stronger, more independent person, she may be the one needing you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2006): I had a similar thing happen to me. My girlfriend of 2 years, that I love so much, moved back in with her parents around December (last month). She said we needed time apart. She would call everyday and say she loves me. Today, she came to my house and said that she loves me, but cant be with me anymore, that she is shutting me out of her life, and moving on. I feel for ya. Your best bet is to go to the doctor, get on some anti depressants, and anxienty meds. Then read some books, thats all I can say to do. Ive learned that you cant change people, and get people back, they will do what they want to do.
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