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writes:Me and my ex-girlfriend have been on and off for the past 6 months but we are very much into each other...too many disagreements and problems with trust have ruined things. I decided to give it one last go instead of giving up on it but i didn't really want to. After a week of being back together i started to go off her and conversations were dead etc...i wasnt loving her right so i decided i wanted to end things now because i never wanted to hurt her. I new girl started at work that week and i couldnt keep my eyes off her, we've been talking n she seems nice but that made me realise it wasnt right to stay with my ex. I ended it after i said some inappropriate things to this new girl....my girlfriend has hacked into my facebook etc and read everything n now she thinks ive finished 6 months of special stuff for this girl i hardly no. i've hurt her as much as i possibly could n all i wanted to do was let her go without hurting her :( i never wanted to hurt her. i feel so bad, i hate myself for doing this to her. but now she is doing everything she can to try and get back at me. getting drunk and getting lifts to places with people she knows i HATE on purpose to wind me up. i think she might of slept with one of them :@ this is driving me crazy, someone cheer me up please!
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reader, urbanking99 +, writes (12 April 2009):
Closure has not yet happened. You and your ex need to sit down together and discuss things properly, no distractions. No computers, no mobiles, nothing to get in the way. You are both adults.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (12 April 2009):
As much as you sugar coat it, the reason you split up with her is because you don't want to be with her.
And if you don't want to be with her then you have to get out of her life for a while and do your own thing. She needs space to get over you. You need space to get over her.
It doesn't matter who's car she gets into and what she gets up to. Leave her to it and take no interest in it. If she is doing it to try and hurt you then she'll stop when she sees you are not watching.
Send her a long note saying how sorry you are and how you didn't mean to hurt her but you think it's best if you both get some space. Tell her you would love it if you can make friends again some day when she has forgiven you but you'll leave that up to her.
Then defriend her on facebook and leave her to it.
Good Luck!! xx
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