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*aridisepassion
writes:I was used by my ex for a month and a half..all along he had his best friend he was inlove with and kept as a "Bestfriend"..He also always made derogritory gay jokes about men and basically he wants to be with men..once he scremed out im gay.I feel used and abused and throwed away..after I comfronted him about being gay and being inlove with his ex girlfriend I was let go and dropped..Is it wrong that I feel this way ..like some confused person used me for sex or an experiment..then lost interest and ran.How can revive my power back..I cried for days on in..I feell messed up and torn..noone should be used even if there partner is strugling with there sexuality or knows what they want.I wish he didn't lead me on if he was gay or inlove with his ex still..I feel like I want revenge..but cannot act on it..I have had no contact for about two weeks now with no response from him..only directly after the breakup 24hrs later he texed "what u doing" and then three days after "what time?"..what time wasout of the blue because I haent replied to his weak way to reach out.What does these weak textes mean..and how can one stop the pain of feeling used and torn and dropped by posibbly bisexual man who still loves his best friend who has a boyfriend..wow it sounds like a jerry springer triangle..Im just deeply torn..No matter what the pain and confusion never goes away..When I tell people they scream he was not inlove with you he didn't care or like you..but why use me for a month..that is not a good person..and I believe..Every man gets his day..he will reep what he soe..Karma is a bitch:(
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reader, Paridisepassion +, writes (2 December 2010):
Paridisepassion is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat was the most sincere answer I have heard since this break up exhisted..I have asked friends and faily even websites who only say forget him or family that wants to scream ane yell my heartache away..
But you..you helped me a million times over ..Yo Cerbus allowed me to heal..
Thankyou for those thoughtful words..most of all thankyou for understanding..Its hard to move on when your heart istorn and the respect for someone you loved has been taken away..
In evry breakup theres one person left behind or doesn't agree to the braakup usually..Its never easier being the one behind..Now I must catch up and live.
Very happy that you answered my question with such care and understanding most of all thought..
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (2 December 2010):
 It is alright for you to feel this way. He betrayed your trust in him and in doing so he forced all the respect you once had for him away, lost into the ether and never to return. So I suggest you stop contacting him and stop letting him contact you. If he wants to figure his sexuality out, let him, but let him do so on his own. He should not be using people like this.
No do not seek vengeance. Let your anger die with every breath you take. Cry until you cannot cry anymore, scream until it feels pointless but do not seek revenge. Just let your anger fade away. Now you will not let anyone use you again.
If he continues to text you, tell him that you are not willing to speak to him. Not after what he did to you. I suppose if he has even a sliver of decency in him, he will try to make it up to you. If he does try, I suppose it is alright to at least talk but for now, ignore him.
I hope that helps.
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