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writes:Hey everyone. Ok so I got some social issues. My mom won't allow me to go anywhere with my friends. Not even with my best friend whom I've been friends with for 13 years now and my mother knows her. My mom just won't listen to me so talking won't help. Perhaps I should get someone who doesn't know either of us and look at the situation coz she won't listen to me. Any advice anyone? And I don't have friends really coz I thought why have friends when you can't enjoy them? Please help!
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (13 January 2009):
 Perhaps she is a bit too over-protective but I am sure she has her reasons. First of all ask yourself what your Mom knows about your friend. Try to figure out why she might not want you hanging out with her. Be glad that your Mom cares enough to try keeping you on the straight and narrow.
Try to understand her reasons and help her to get to know the friend better. Even after 13 years it's possible for a person to have changed or for a parent to still not be around them enough to really know your friend closely.
One of the first duties to a child is to protect them. Guidence is always important and learing to talk to your parent helps in all communication processes. Open up to your Mom without blaming or accusing. Give her help in understanding how you feel and find out her misgivings about your friend(s). Let her be a real part of your growing up process. Although you may not see it now, your Mom is usually one of the best friends you will ever have.
Give her credit where credit is due and ask her calmly and with sincerity to give your best friend a chance. Have the friend over with Mom's permission of course, this shows her respect and plan something that the three of you can do together.(shopping,going to the movies or perhaps playing some type of game together) Have a GIRLS NIGHT OUT! Let Mom be involved in your life and let her see that you can be mature enough to handle the responsibilites that come with hanging out with friends. Show her that YOU KNOW RIGHT FROM WRONG and YOU INTEND TO BE ON YOUR BEST BEHAVIOR. Always make sure she knows where you go and who you are with. That is a part of a good parent and child communication.
Be young while you can, enjoy your times with your MOM when you are older those days are often gone. Cherish her love and support by returning it with Respect, love and obedience. SHE CARES ABOUT YOU! Taking care of a child isn't easy, neither is rearing a strong, reverant and mature young adult. Give your Mom benefit of the doubt, don't worry about trying to change her mind, work on changing the outcome of everything by giving her a chance to know you better along with your friends. Prove to her that you and your friends are willing to do what it takes to help make her feel easy about the hanging out thing.
Too often hanging out leads to trouble with ALCOHOL, DRUGS, SMOKING, SEX, TEENAGE PREGNANY,RISKS OF FATAL DISEASES, WRECKS WITH FATALITIES, RUNAWAYS, ABUSE AND MANY OTHER THINGS. SHOW HER THAT YOU CAN BE TRUSTED and THAT YOU ARE MATURE ENOUGH, THAT WITH GOD'S HELP AND HERS TOO YOU CAN GROW AND BECOME THE ADULT YOU SHOULD BE.
THE BIBLE SAYS HONOR THEY MOTHER AND THEY FATHER....WHEN YOU DO THIS YOU ARE IN GOD'S FAVOR....HE CAN CHANGE THINGS AND MAKE YOUR LIFE DIFFERENT. SEEK HIS WISDOM and LISTEN TO YOUR MOM BECAUSE SHE HAS PROBABLY ALREADY BEEN WHERE YOU ARE AND SHE WANTS TO KEEP YOU SAFE.
God bless,
God_Bless
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reader, sheribaby38 +, writes (13 January 2009):
 Well I'm a mom of a teenager and I'd like to know more about your friends.. maybe there is a reason you're not allowed to hang out with them... I myself don't let my teeneager run around with just anybody. Kids have poor taste in friends sometimes and are impressionable and can be lead down bad roads. I think your mom is trying to protect you. If talking to her doesn't help then go to a school campus counselor and talk there. I wish more kids went to the counselors waiting list. My daughter goes to hers and they have a great friendship going.
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